6 Ways to Stop Your Negative Thinking

6 Ways to Stop Your Negative Thinking

 

Most people know that negative thinking isn’t doing them any favors on the happiness front. However, fewer people realize that the patterns of their thinking, when habitually negative, could make them sick.

In an article for UCL News, Dr. Natalie Marchant discusses her research on the link between cognitive decline and negative thinking. She reveals that depression, anxiety, and PTSD are all risk factors for developing dementia. Furthermore, she notes that common to each of these conditions is a pattern of engaging in “Repetitive Negative Thinking.”*

You are not your negative thoughts!

The mechanism by which negative thinking causes physical harm to the body is thought to be through inducing stress which raises blood pressure and cortisol levels, among other less understood impacts. Fortunately, there are ways to break out of patterns and create new, healthier ones. The following six methods are a good place to start.

 

1.      Tune in

The first step in making any change is identifying what isn’t working. Until you do that, it’s woefully difficult to know where to begin. It helps to start by creating a habit of reflecting on the nature of your self-talk—the dialogue in your head that narrates what you’re doing and often has a value judgment attached to it.

At first, just identify patterns, note them, and reflect on how they make you feel. The more persistent the thoughts are, the more attention they should receive. If they’re both frequent and leave you feeling rotten, you’ve just identified a weed that needs pulling.

Once you establish that fact, you can begin incorporating a replacement positive thought each time the negative one emerges. Make it incremental and realistic. You cannot jump from frustration to pure joy in one giant leap. For example, if you habitually think, “I’m such an idiot!” It might not work to replace that thought with, “I’m such a genius!”

Your mind may convert that to sarcasm, undermining your effort. Instead, try something like, “I’m a work in progress.”  This is a true statement of any of us and promotes efficacy.

 Take Care

A simple way to improve the nature of your thoughts is to be mindful of how you’re treating yourself. If you eat low-quality food, don’t exercise, and get lousy sleep, your body and mind will not function at their best. In addition, those behaviors send the subconscious message that you do not value yourself. That alone can be the wellspring of negative thinking.

So, eat a balanced diet of the freshest, highest quality food you can get, prioritize moving every day, and get serious about your sleep hygiene. Do those three things, and your thoughts naturally turn in the right direction.

2.     Prioritize Relationships

The Blue Zone studies, which track some of the healthiest and longest-lived people globally, revealed nine consistent behaviors. Of those nine, four of them are related to relationships. These are moderate consumption of wine with friends, a shared faith-based community, prioritizing family, and a consistent long-term friend group.**

There is abundant additional evidence to support the value of forming and sustaining healthy relationships, but the simplest way to recognize the value is to try it. Connecting with others is very likely how we evolved our big brains. The more love you share, the more love you feel, perpetuating good emotions and a long life.

3.      Foster Gratitude

When negative thoughts start pounding in your head, pause and redirect. Think of one to three things that you’re grateful for. It doesn’t have to be complicated or expansive, but it can be. You might start with being grateful that you woke up. From there, you had a bowel movement, that you could eat breakfast, that nobody is shooting at you, that someone loves you, etc.

The point is to start paying attention to things that are going right for you and acknowledging them. This creates a habit of seeing the good and can help crowd out the bad. In life, I have noticed that you get what you focus on.

4.      Be More Kind

This can begin with being nicer to yourself. However, it should extend to others as well. Few things get you out of your head faster than thinking about another being. Doing something thoughtful for someone is a way to promote surges of good chemicals (oxytocin, dopamine) and add value to your day.

Even little things—a call, a text, opening a door, rescuing a bird, watering a plant, asking an employee at your favorite grocery store about their day (and listening)—can all make a difference. The more you do it, the easier it becomes. Also, it has the added benefit of making other people nicer to you. Try it; you’ll see. Can you do three acts of kindness each day? Make one of them for yourself.

5.     Don’t Take Things For Granted

You might not realize it, but ruminating on the past and worrying about the future are ways of getting outside of where you are. The more time you spend outside of the moment, the more likely you are to ignore what actually matters and what needs your attention in the here and now.

Life is fleeting, and we’re only here for a flash. Impermanence is something that we’d do our best not to forget. It’s not about morbidly pondering death but rather embracing each moment, living fully, and leaving nothing to regret. Live your life in the now and like you love to live, and it will love you back.

 

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Embrace the Power of Vision

Embrace the Power of Vision

As December unfolds its tranquil beauty, it invites us to step into the realm of possibility and dare to dream. The year may be drawing to a close, but another chapter of your life is about to begin. In this blog post, we will explore the transformative practice of envisioning the year ahead, setting inspiring yet achievable goals, and allowing your dreams to shape the path you wish to walk. So, let us embark on this uplifting journey of self-discovery and creation.

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Dreaming Your Way to a Remarkable Year Ahead

Dreaming is not a frivolous pursuit; it is the wellspring of inspiration and the foundation of growth. Your dreams can breathe life into your aspirations and shape your future. When you dare to dream and plan, you open doors to new possibilities, harness your inner strength and set the stage for remarkable achievements.

Step 1: Find a Quiet Refuge

To begin this transformative process, find a quiet refuge where you can let your thoughts wander freely. Choose a place to connect with your innermost desires, whether it’s a cozy corner of your home, a serene park, or a hidden alcove in a bustling café.

Step 2: Reflect on the Past Year

Take a moment to reflect on the year that’s coming to an end. What were your highlights, accomplishments, and moments of growth? Acknowledge the challenges you faced and the valuable lessons you learned. This reflection will provide a springboard for envisioning your future.

Step 3: Give Yourself Permission to Dream

Allow yourself to dream without limitations or self-doubt. Close your eyes and envision the year ahead. What do you want to achieve? How do you want to feel? Let your imagination roam freely and explore the possibilities that excite your spirit.

Step 4: Set Inspiring, Realistic Goals

From your dreams, distill concrete and achievable goals. Make them inspiring yet grounded in reality. Use the SMART (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, Time-bound) criteria as a guide. Your goals should resonate with your heart and align with your values.

Step 5: Create a Vision Board or Journal

Visual aids can be powerful tools for manifesting your dreams. Consider creating a vision board with images, quotes, and symbols representing your goals. Alternatively, maintain a journal where you jot down your dreams, goals, and the action steps required to achieve them.

Step 6: Break Goals into Actionable Steps

Break down your goals into actionable steps to turn your dreams into reality. What can you do today, this week, this month, and throughout the year to inch closer to your dreams? Create a timeline and prioritize these steps.

Step 7: Cultivate Resilience and Adaptability

Remember that the journey toward your dreams may not always be smooth. Challenges and unexpected detours may arise. Cultivate resilience and adaptability as your companions on this journey. Embrace setbacks as opportunities for growth and learning.

Step 8: Stay Connected to Your Vision

Lastly, stay connected to your vision throughout the year. Review your goals regularly, celebrate your progress, and make adjustments as needed. Share your dreams with supportive friends or mentors who can provide guidance and encouragement.

As you embark on this journey of dreaming and planning for the year ahead, may you be filled with hope, inspiration, and a deep sense of purpose. Your dreams guide you towards a life rich with meaning and fulfillment. Cherish them, nurture them, and let them illuminate your path.

May the coming year be a testament to your courage, resilience, and unwavering commitment to your dreams. With each step you take, you bring your vision closer to reality. Embrace this journey with an open heart, and may your year ahead be filled with joy, growth, and the realization of your deepest desires.

A Compassionate Self-Assessment for the Year’s End

This blog post will explore the significance of assessing your physical, emotional, and mental well-being and how you can gently and compassionately embark on this self-assessment journey.  Read here.

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Year-End Guide to Evaluating Your Relationships

In this blog post, we will delve into the art of evaluating your relationships with a heart full of encouragement and guidance, helping you make informed decisions on nurturing and cherishing these precious bonds. Read here.

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Coming This Month

Setting the Stage for a Bright Future

In this blog post, we will delve into the art of reviewing your goals with a sense of encouragement and to help you make the most of this introspective process. Read here.

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Reflecting on the Past Year: Setting the Stage for a Bright Future

As December unfolds and the year draws to a close, it’s a perfect time to embark on the soul-nourishing journey of self-reflection. A year has passed, leaving a trail of experiences, lessons, and memories. It’s an opportune moment to review your goals, assess your progress, and set the stage for a brighter future. In this blog post, we will delve into the art of reviewing your goals with a sense of encouragement and to help you make the most of this introspective process.

Setting Goals for the Year Ahead

Setting goals at the beginning of the year is a powerful practice. It provides you with a roadmap, a sense of purpose, and a clear vision for what you want to achieve. However, goals are not set in stone; they are dynamic and should evolve with you as you grow and change. Hence, the importance of reviewing them cannot be overstated.

Step 1: Create a Peaceful Environment

Setting the stage for reflection is crucial before diving into the nitty-gritty of goal review. Find a quiet, cozy corner where you can be alone with your thoughts. Light a scented candle, play soothing music, or simply sit in comfortable silence. This peaceful environment will help you connect with your inner self.

Step 2: Revisit Your Goals

Begin by revisiting the goals you set at the beginning of the year. Take your time to read through them carefully. Remember, it’s perfectly normal for some goals to have evolved or even changed entirely. Life is unpredictable, and our aspirations can shift with our experiences.

Step 3: Celebrate Your Achievements

Celebrate your wins and achievements, no matter how small they may seem. Reflect on the progress you’ve made, the obstacles you’ve overcome, and the skills you’ve developed along the way. Recognizing your accomplishments will boost your self-esteem and motivation.

Step 4: Assess Your Progress

Next, assess your progress toward each goal. Are you closer to achieving them than you were at the start of the year? If so, what actions or habits contributed to your success? Conversely, if you haven’t made as much progress as you hoped, what obstacles or distractions hindered your path?

Step 5: Align with Your Values

Evaluate whether your goals still align with your values and aspirations. Your values may evolve as you grow, leading to a shift in priorities. Be open to the possibility that some goals may no longer serve your authentic self. Embrace change as a natural part of your personal growth journey.

Step 6: Set New Intentions

Once you’ve reviewed your goals and assessed your progress, it’s time to set new intentions for the year ahead. Be mindful of your aspirations, values, and lessons learned throughout the year. What do you want to achieve, experience, or create in the coming year? Set SMART (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, Time-bound) goals that resonate with your authentic self.

Step 7: Craft an Action Plan

To turn your intentions into reality, craft a practical action plan. Break down your goals into smaller, actionable steps. Create a timeline and hold yourself accountable. Remember that consistency and perseverance are key to achieving your dreams. What virtues will help you meet your goals

Step 8: Embrace Self-Compassion

Throughout this process, remember to be kind to yourself. Self-compassion is a powerful tool that helps you navigate the ups and downs of life with grace. Embrace the imperfections and setbacks as opportunities for growth and learning.

Reflecting on your goals at the end of the year is a beautiful and transformative practice. It allows you to celebrate your achievements, realign with your values, and set intentions for a brighter future. Embrace change as a natural part of your growth journey, and approach the coming year with enthusiasm and determination.

As you embark on this journey of self-reflection, may you find clarity, inspiration, and the courage to pursue your dreams with unwavering dedication. Remember, the power to shape your future lies within you, waiting to be harnessed. Embrace it with open arms, and may the year ahead be filled with purpose, joy, and fulfillment.

A Compassionate Self-Assessment for the Year’s End

This blog post will explore the significance of assessing your physical, emotional, and mental well-being and how you can gently and compassionately embark on this self-assessment journey.  Read here.

Year-End Guide to Evaluating Your Relationships

In this blog post, we will delve into the art of evaluating your relationships with a heart full of encouragement and guidance, helping you make informed decisions on nurturing and cherishing these precious bonds. Read here.

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Coming This Month

Embrace the Power of Vision

In this blog post, we will delve into the art of reviewing your goals with a sense of encouragement to help you make the most of this introspective process.

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Embrace the Power of Vision

A Year End Guide to Evaluating Your Relationships

As December ushers in its gentle embrace, it offers us an invaluable opportunity to reflect not only on the year that has passed but also on the relationships that have enriched our lives. As seasons change, so do our connections with family, friends, and colleagues. In this blog post, we will delve into the art of evaluating your relationships with a heart full of encouragement and guidance, helping you make informed decisions on nurturing and cherishing these precious bonds.

Understanding the Significance of Relationship Evaluation

Our relationships are the threads that weave the fabric of our lives. They influence our emotions, well-being, and overall happiness. Taking the time to evaluate them is an act of self-care and self-awareness. Doing so can ensure that your social circle continues to be a source of support, growth, and fulfillment.

Step 1: Find a Quiet Space

Begin your journey of relationship evaluation by finding a peaceful and undisturbed space where you can reflect with clarity. Creating an environment that allows you to connect with your inner thoughts and feelings is essential.

Step 2: Reflect on Your Connections

Take a moment to reflect on your relationships with family, friends, and colleagues. Are these connections supportive and fulfilling? Do they uplift and inspire you? Assessing whether your interactions leave you feeling positive or drained, empowered or diminished is crucial.

Step 3: Recognize the Importance of Boundaries

Boundaries are the cornerstone of healthy relationships. Consider whether you’ve set clear and respectful boundaries with those in your life. Boundaries are not walls; they are bridges that define your comfort zones. Reflect on whether these boundaries have been respected and honored in your relationships.

Step 4: Nurturing Important Relationships

Some relationships are like precious gardens that require tending and nurturing. Identify the relationships that hold deep meaning for you. Have you invested enough time and effort into these connections? Reflect on ways you can strengthen and deepen these bonds.

Step 5: Letting Go of Toxic Relationships

On the flip side, it’s essential to recognize toxic relationships that may be causing you harm or holding you back. Toxic relationships can manifest in various forms, such as negativity, manipulation, or lack of respect. Reflect on whether it’s time to distance yourself from these detrimental connections for your well-being.

Step 6: Communication and Resolution

Open and honest communication is the foundation of resolving relationship conflicts and misunderstandings. Reflect on whether unresolved issues or unspoken feelings need to be addressed. Consider initiating a conversation, seeking clarity, and finding common ground.

Step 7: Set Intentions for Healthy Relationships

With your evaluation complete, it’s time to set intentions for your relationships in the year ahead. What steps can you take to enhance the quality of your connections? Perhaps it’s dedicating more quality time with loved ones, expressing your appreciation more often, or actively seeking new friendships and opportunities for personal growth.

Step 8: Seek Support and Guidance

Remember that seeking support and guidance in navigating your relationships is okay. Whether through conversations with trusted friends or seeking professional counseling, reaching out for assistance can provide valuable insights and emotional support.

As you embark on this journey of relationship evaluation, may you approach it with a compassionate heart and an open mind. Your relationships reflect your inner world and deserve your attention and care. May this reflection process bring clarity, healing, and renewed connections into your life.

May the coming year be filled with enriching relationships that lift your spirits, support your growth, and bring joy to your heart. Cherish the bonds that nurture your soul and have the courage to let go of those that no longer serve your well-being. Embrace this opportunity for growth, and may your path be filled with love, harmony, and meaningful connections.

A Compassionate Self-Assessment for the Year’s End

The first post in this series explores the significance of assessing your physical, emotional, and mental well-being and how you can gently and compassionately embark on this self-assessment journeyRead here.

Coming This Month

Setting the Stage for a Bright Future

In this third post of this series, we will delve into the art of reviewing your goals with a sense of encouragement to help you make the most of this introspective process.

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Coming This Month

Embrace the Power of Vision

In our final post of this series, we will delve into the art of reviewing your goals with a sense of encouragement to help you make the most of this introspective process.

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Surviving Your Relatives During the Holiday Season

Surviving Your Relatives During the Holiday Season

Ah, the holiday season – a time of joy, love, and togetherness with family and friends. But let’s be honest, it can also be a time of stress, tension, and occasional chaos when dealing with your beloved relatives. Fear not! We’ve got your back with some sanity-saving tips to help you navigate those family gatherings with grace and a sense of humor.

Embrace the chaos.

It’s what makes us unique.

Embrace Imperfection – It’s easy to fall into the trap of perfectionism during the holidays. Remember that no family is perfect, and neither are you. Embrace the quirks and flaws of your relatives – after all, they’re part of what makes your family unique.

Set Realistic Expectations – Avoid expecting a Hollywood-style, drama-free holiday gathering. Real life is not a Hallmark movie. Set realistic expectations, and you’ll be less likely to get disappointed.

Practice Patience – Patience is a virtue; it’s a lifesaver during the holidays. When Uncle Bob starts talking politics or Aunt Susan criticizes your cooking, take a deep breath, count to ten, and smile. Remember, it’s just one day.

Avoid Hot-Button Topics – Steer clear of contentious subjects like politics or sensitive family history. It’s okay to say, “Let’s agree to disagree,” and change the topic to something more neutral and enjoyable.

Delegate Responsibilities – You don’t have to do it all. Delegate tasks and responsibilities to different family members. Let others help with the cooking, decorating, or entertaining. Sharing the load can relieve stress and create bonding moments.

Create Boundaries – Setting boundaries is crucial for your mental health. If you need alone time, take it. Politely excuse yourself for a walk, some quiet reading, or even a power nap. It’s okay to prioritize your well-being.

Stay Active – Don’t underestimate the power of physical activity. Invite your family for a post-meal walk or a game of touch football. Not only does it burn calories, but it can also diffuse tension and create shared memories.

Laugh It Off – Humor can be a powerful tool. When tensions rise, use humor to defuse the situation. Tell a funny story, make a lighthearted joke, or watch a hilarious movie together. Laughter truly is the best medicine.

Focus on Gratitude – Take a moment to reflect on what you’re grateful for within your family. Despite the occasional clashes, there are moments of love, support, and connection. Express your gratitude and reinforce the positive aspects of your relationships.

Remember the Bigger Picture – When things get overwhelming, remind yourself of the bigger picture – the reason you’re all together in the first place. It’s about celebrating love, togetherness, and creating lasting memories. Those moments are worth a few family quirks and disagreements.

Ultimately, surviving your relatives during the holiday season is about maintaining your sanity while cherishing the bonds that make your family unique. Embrace imperfection, practice patience, and use humor as your secret weapon. Remember, it’s all part of the holiday adventure, and you’ve got this!

So, breathe deeply, and let the holiday festivities begin. Who knows, you might create some unforgettable moments that will have your family laughing for years. After all, it’s all in the name of love, joy, and the season’s spirit. Happy holidays!

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A Compassionate Self-Assessment for the Year’s End

As December graces us with its presence, it’s the perfect moment to embark on a journey of self-care and introspection. The year may have been a whirlwind of experiences, challenges, and accomplishments, but have you taken the time to assess your well-being amidst it all? This blog post will explore the significance of assessing your physical, emotional, and mental well-being and how you can gently and compassionately embark on this self-assessment journey.

Understanding the Importance of Well-Being Assessment

In the hustle and bustle of everyday life, it’s easy to lose sight of the most important person in the equation—you. Your well-being, encompassing your physical, emotional, and mental health, is the cornerstone of a fulfilling and balanced life. Taking stock of your well-being is not an act of selfishness but an act of self-preservation and self-love. After all, you can only give your best to the world when you are at your best.

Step 1: Find a Tranquil Space

Begin your well-being assessment by finding a peaceful and comfortable space to be alone with your thoughts. This tranquil environment will allow you to focus and connect with your inner self.

Step 2: Reflect on Your Physical Well-Being

Start by considering your physical well-being. Ask yourself: Are you taking care of your health? Have you been getting enough rest, eating nourishing foods, and engaging in regular physical activity? Reflect on any signs of discomfort or illness you may have experienced throughout the year. Acknowledging your strengths and areas where improvement may be needed is essential.

Step 3: Nurturing Your Emotional Needs

Moving on to emotional well-being, take a moment to reflect on your feelings and emotions. Have you been acknowledging and addressing your emotions in a healthy way? Have you sought support when needed? Emotional well-being involves self-compassion, understanding, and the ability to process and express feelings. Take note of moments of emotional growth and times when you may have suppressed or neglected your emotional needs.

Step 4: Prioritize Mental Rejuvenation

Finally, consider your mental well-being. Have you made time for relaxation and mental rejuvenation? Your mental health is just as important as your physical health. Reflect on whether you’ve found moments of calm amidst life’s chaos. Have you explored mindfulness, meditation, or other practices that promote mental well-being? Assess your stress levels and the strategies you’ve used to manage them.

Step 5: Embrace Self-Compassion

Throughout this self-assessment, it’s crucial to approach yourself with kindness and self-compassion. Remember that no one is perfect, and well-being is an ongoing journey. Celebrate your progress and acknowledge the areas where you can improve without judgment or self-criticism.

Step 6: Set Intentions for Well-Being

With your self-assessment complete, it’s time to set intentions for nurturing your well-being in the year ahead. How can you prioritize your physical, emotional, and mental health? Perhaps it’s committing to regular exercise, seeking therapy or counseling, or dedicating time to mindfulness practices. Create a plan that aligns with your personal well-being goals.

Step 7: Seek Support

Remember that you don’t have to navigate this journey alone. Seek support from friends, family, or professionals if needed. Sharing your well-being goals and challenges with a trusted confidant can provide valuable insights and encouragement.

Assessing your well-being at the year’s end is an act of self-care and self-love. It’s a reminder that your well-being is a precious gift that deserves your attention and nurturing. As you embark on this journey of self-assessment, may you find clarity, compassion, and the motivation to prioritize your physical, emotional, and mental health in the year ahead.

May the coming year be a time of growth, self-discovery, and a deepening connection with your own well-being. Remember, you deserve the care and attention you so readily give to others. Embrace this opportunity to flourish, and may your path be filled with health, happiness, and inner peace

Year-End Guide to Evaluating Your Relationships

Our relationships are the threads that weave the fabric of our lives. They influence our emotions, well-being, and overall happiness. Taking the time to evaluate them is an act of self-care and self-awareness. In the second post in this series, we will delve into the art of evaluating your relationships with a heart full of encouragement and guidance, helping you make informed decisions on nurturing and cherishing these precious bonds.

Coming This Month

Setting the Stage for a Bright Future

In this blog post, we will delve into the art of reviewing your goals with a sense of encouragement and to help you make the most of this introspective process. 

create a dream board

Coming This Month

Embrace the Power of Vision

In this blog post, we will delve into the art of reviewing your goals with a sense of encouragement and to help you make the most of this introspective process.

I invite you to sign up for our newsletter. It is a great way to get the Virtue of the Month and tips on relationships, parenting, and self-care. In addition, you’ll be the first to know about upcoming classes for successful families.

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