Love on Your Plate: How Eating Right is an Act of Self-Love

Love on Your Plate: How Eating Right is an Act of Self-Love

by | Feb 7, 2025 | Self-care

Why Love Starts with You

Parenting is an all-consuming act of love. From the moment you wake up to the moment you (finally) collapse into bed, you’re pouring love into your children—packing lunches, reminding them to eat their veggies, and ensuring they get all the nourishment they need.

But here’s the big question: Are you doing the same for yourself?

Many parents (especially moms and dads in the trenches of daily chaos) prioritize their children’s meals while surviving on caffeine, cold leftovers, or a quick snack grabbed on the go. It’s time for a perspective shift—because eating well is one of the purest forms of self-love.

Loving yourself through food isn’t about weight loss, strict diets, or meal perfection. It’s about treating yourself with the same care, patience, and nourishment you give your family.

The Love-Food Connection

Love is more than an emotion—it’s an action. It’s in the little choices you make daily, including what you put on your plate.

Food has long been tied to expressions of love:
❤️ A warm, homemade meal after a long day.
❤️ A shared bowl of popcorn during a movie night.
❤️ A favorite childhood dish made “just because.”

But love through food isn’t just about giving—it’s about receiving, too. If we’re constantly nourishing others but neglecting ourselves, we’re sending the message (to our kids and ourselves) that our needs don’t matter. And that’s simply not true.

When we eat well, we show self-respect, self-care, and self-love.

Breaking the Cycle: From Neglect to Nourishment

Many parents fall into a pattern of meal neglect—skipping breakfast, snacking mindlessly, or eating whatever’s left over after the kids are done. If this sounds familiar, here are three small but powerful ways to bring more love to your plate.

1. Eat Like You Love Yourself

Ask yourself, “Would I serve this meal to my child as a nutritious, nourishing choice?” If not, why are you eating it? You deserve the same balance of protein, healthy fats, and fiber that you provide for your little ones.

💡 Try this: When preparing your child’s meal, set aside a portion for yourself. Better yet, sit down and eat together.

2. Savor, Don’t Survive

Eating on the go, standing at the counter, or scrolling while snacking disconnects us from our food. We deserve the joy of a mindful meal, just like our kids do.

💡 Try this: Even if it’s just one meal a day, sit down and eat without distractions. Notice the flavors, textures, and nourishment. This simple act is a form of self-love.

3. Prepare with Love, Not Guilt

Many parents resent meal prep, seeing it as just another chore. But what if we reframed it? Preparing a nourishing meal is an act of love—not just for your family but for yourself.

💡 Try this: Choose one meal this week that you’ll prepare with care, for YOU. Plate it beautifully, enjoy every bite, and remind yourself that you are worth the effort.

The Ripple Effect: How Your Choices Shape Your Family

Your children are watching you. When they see you prioritizing healthy, mindful eating, they learn that self-care isn’t selfish—it’s essential. They see that love isn’t just something we give but also something we receive.

When you eat well, you:
✔️ Have more energy to engage with your kids.
✔️ Feel less stressed and overwhelmed.
✔️ Show them what balanced, joyful eating looks like.

Self-care isn’t a luxury—it’s a necessity. And one of the easiest ways to practice it is through loving yourself on your plate.

 

This Week’s Challenge

This week, make one small shift toward self-love through food. Maybe it’s eating a real breakfast, sitting down for a meal, or simply drinking more water. Whatever it is, do it with intention, care, and love—because you deserve it.

What’s one way you can eat with love today? Drop a comment and let’s inspire each other!

Joe is a husband, father, grandfather, author, speaker, educator, course creator, and parent/family coach.

He helps parents develop unity, find clarity, communicate, and develop consistency in their parenting with the Four C’s of Successful Families. You can find his work on social media.

In addition, the Four C’s newsletter is enjoyed by many as it encourages parents to self-care, build their relationships with their partners, and raise their children. 

And he loves to golf! 

Joseph Michael
Love is the Greatest Virtue of All

Love is the Greatest Virtue of All

by | Jan 28, 2025 | Virtues

Love is the greatest of all virtues. It’s a bold claim, isn’t it? Yet, as I reflect on the role love plays in our lives, it becomes clear why it holds such a lofty position. Love is the force that binds us together, inspires us to grow, and gives our lives meaning. It’s not merely a feeling—it’s an active, transformative virtue that shapes the way we see the world and each other.

Why is love seen as the greatest virtue? I believe it’s because love encompasses all other virtues. Patience, kindness, humility, forgiveness, and even courage stem from love. When we act out of love, we embody these virtues naturally. Love motivates us to go beyond ourselves to put others’ needs before our own. It challenges us to see the beauty in others and to create beauty in the world. Without love, virtues can feel mechanical or hollow, but with love, they become vibrant and alive.

Consider how love influences our relationships. Love isn’t just about romance or family ties. It’s about connection and care. When we love someone, we invest in their well-being. We listen more intently, forgive more freely, and work harder to build trust and understanding. Love teaches us to sacrifice our comfort, time, and even our pride to nurture these bonds. In this sense, sacrifice is not a loss but a gift—a way of prioritizing what truly matters.

But love doesn’t stop at our closest relationships.

When cultivated as a virtue, love extends outward to encompass our communities, our environment, and even our sense of purpose. Loving a place, for example, means treating it with respect and care. Love inspires us to protect and nurture the spaces we inhabit, whether it’s our home, a favorite park, or an entire city. It asks us to be stewards, recognizing that what we cherish must also be preserved for others.

The same is true for ideas. When we love a cause or a principle, we’re willing to dedicate ourselves fully to it. Think of the people who have fought tirelessly for justice, equality, or peace. Their love for these ideals drove them to sacrifice, often at significant personal cost. Love becomes the fuel for perseverance. It allows us to stay committed even when the journey is challenging because a vision of something greater than ourselves anchors us.

What about life itself?

This is the most profound expression of love. To love life is to embrace its fullness—the joys, sorrows, triumphs, and challenges. It means approaching each day with gratitude and wonder, seeing each moment as an opportunity to grow and connect. When we love life, we’re more likely to take risks, be vulnerable, and open ourselves to new experiences. When viewed through the lens of love, life becomes a gift, not a burden.

Yet love isn’t always easy. It demands vulnerability and courage. To love deeply is to risk pain—the pain of loss, rejection, or disappointment. But I’ve come to see that this vulnerability is what makes love so powerful. It reminds us of our shared humanity. When we love, we acknowledge that we are all imperfect and that we all need grace and compassion. Love humbles us, teaching us to let go of control and to trust in something greater than ourselves.

In my own life, I’ve seen how love can transform even the smallest moments. A kind word, a thoughtful gesture, or a simple act of presence can make all the difference. These are acts of love that ripple outward, creating connections and strengthening relationships. Love isn’t about grand gestures or perfect outcomes; it’s about the consistent, everyday choices to care and to give.

So how do we apply love to all parts of life? It starts with intention. Love is a choice we make, moment by moment. In our relationships, it means prioritizing connection over convenience. In our work, it means striving for excellence because we care about the impact we’re making. In our communities, it means showing up for others, even when it’s inconvenient or uncomfortable. And in our relationship with ourselves, it means practicing self-compassion and allowing ourselves to grow.

Love also calls us to sacrifice. This isn’t about losing ourselves or denying our needs; it’s about discerning what matters most. When we love, we’re willing to let go of lesser things to focus on what truly brings meaning and joy. This might mean giving up time spent on distractions to invest in a relationship, or it could mean setting aside personal ambitions to support someone else’s dreams. Love reminds us that sacrifice is not about deprivation but about choosing abundance—an abundance of connection, purpose, and fulfillment.

Imagine a world where love guides our decisions. Conflicts would give way to understanding. Communities would thrive through mutual care. Families would be places of safety and growth. Each of us would feel valued, not for what we do but for who we are. Love, as the greatest virtue, has the power to transform not just our individual lives but the world around us.

As I reflect on the role of love, I’m reminded of the profound truth that love is both a gift and a practice. It’s something we receive and something we give. It’s a force that shapes us, challenges us, and inspires us to be better. Love invites us to see the world through eyes of compassion, to act with kindness, and to live with purpose.

So why is love the greatest of all virtues? Because it is the root from which all other virtues grow. It is the guiding light that helps us navigate life’s complexities. And it is the ultimate expression of what it means to be human. Love connects us to each other, to our purpose, and to the divine. It’s not just something we feel; it’s something we do, every day, in big ways and small.

As we go about our lives, let’s strive to make love our compass. Let it guide our choices, shape our relationships, and inspire our actions. When we live with love, we create a life that’s not just good – but truly great. And in doing so, we make the world a little brighter, one act of love at a time.

Joe is a husband, father, grandfather, author, speaker, educator, course creator, and parent/family coach.

He helps parents develop unity, find clarity, communicate, and develop consistency in their parenting with the Four C’s of Successful Families. You can find his work on social media.

In addition, the Four C’s newsletter is enjoyed by many as it encourages parents to self-care, build their relationships with their partners, and raise their children. 

And he loves to golf! 

Joseph Michael
Crafting a Family Mission Statement: A Roadmap to Unity

Crafting a Family Mission Statement: A Roadmap to Unity

by | Jan 22, 2025 | Parenting

In a world that often feels divided, the family has the power to be a sanctuary of unity and purpose. One of the most effective ways to cultivate this unity is by creating a family mission statement. Think of it as a compass—a guiding star for your family’s values, goals, and dreams. But how do you make this happen, especially if your kids are older and roll their eyes at the thought?

This post will walk you through creating a meaningful mission statement that embraces everyone’s unique personality and shows how the virtue of Unity can shine in beautifully distinct ways.

What Is a Family Mission Statement?

A family mission statement is a collective declaration of your values, priorities, and the kind of family you aspire to be. It’s not about being perfect; it’s about aligning your efforts and celebrating your shared vision.

Step 1: Setting the Stage (Even for Reluctant Teens)

Let’s face it: getting everyone on board might require some creativity, especially if you’re dealing with older kids who’d rather be on their phones. Here are some tips:

      • Frame It as a Team Effort
        Teens love being treated like adults. Present the mission statement as a way to define what’s important to your family, emphasizing their input and ownership in the process.
      • Use Food as a Bridge
        Nothing brings people together like snacks! Set up a “Mission Statement Night” with everyone’s favorite treats to create a positive, relaxed atmosphere.
      • Leverage Their Passions
        Tie the mission statement to their interests. For example, if your teen loves art, they can design the visual layout. If they’re into tech, let them create a digital version.
      • Keep It Short and Fun
        Aim for a one-hour session. Use prompts or games to keep it engaging, like asking, “If our family were a superhero team, what would our mission be?”

Step 2: Discovering Your Core Values
Here’s where the magic happens. Start by brainstorming your family’s core values. These can include kindness, honesty, adventure, or creativity.

Activity Idea: “Values Brainstorm”

      • Give each family member a stack of sticky notes.
      • Ask everyone to write down values they think represent your family, one per note.
      • Group similar ideas together and narrow them down to 3-5 core values.

Step 3: Crafting the Statement
With your values in hand, it’s time to write the statement. Keep it simple and meaningful. Here’s a formula to get you started:

“Our family values [core value 1], [core value 2], and [core value 3]. We strive to [action or behavior] and [aspiration]. Together, we aim to [big-picture vision].”

Example:
“Our family values kindness, adventure, and honesty. We strive to support one another and explore the world with curiosity. Together, we aim to grow and share our love with others.”

Step 4: Showcasing Unity in Unique Ways
Unity doesn’t mean sameness. It means harmonizing different strengths and personalities. Here’s how the virtue of Unity might look for different family members:

      • The Extroverted Teen: Shows kindness by organizing family movie nights.
      • The Creative Child: Expresses love through hand-drawn cards for family celebrations.
      • The Quiet Parent: Models honesty by admitting mistakes and sharing life lessons.
      • The Adventurous Parent: Demonstrates curiosity by planning a family camping trip.

By celebrating these differences, you create a mosaic of unity where everyone’s unique contributions shine.

Step 5: Living the Mission Statement
Once your mission statement is complete, keep it alive! Here are some ideas:

  1. Display It
    Frame it and hang it where everyone can see. This daily reminder reinforces your shared vision.
  2. Check-In
    Set aside time (monthly or quarterly) to revisit the mission statement. Celebrate how you’ve lived your values and brainstorm ways to improve.
  3. Celebrate Wins
    When someone embodies a core value, call it out! For example, “Thanks for being so patient with your sister—you really showed our value of kindness today.”

Creating a family mission statement isn’t just about words on paper; it’s about building a culture of unity that withstands life’s ups and downs. You’ll create a legacy of love and purpose by involving everyone—even the skeptics—and celebrating each person’s unique way of expressing virtues.

So, what are you waiting for? Gather your crew, grab some snacks, and start crafting your family’s mission statement today. Together, you can build something truly extraordinary!

Joe is a husband, father, grandfather, author, speaker, educator, course creator, and parent/family coach.

He helps parents develop unity, find clarity, communicate, and develop consistency in their parenting with the Four C’s of Successful Families. You can find his work on social media.

In addition, the Four C’s newsletter is enjoyed by many as it encourages parents to self-care, build their relationships with their partners, and raise their children. 

And he loves to golf! 

Joseph Michael
Clarity + Communication = Family Unity

Clarity + Communication = Family Unity

by | Jan 17, 2025 | Parenting, Relationships

Unity doesn’t just happen by chance. It’s built brick by brick, day by day, through clarity and communication. This week, let’s explore how these two pillars can strengthen unity in your family and deepen your relationship with your spouse.

Why Clarity is the Key to Unity

Clarity in family life is about understanding and articulating what truly matters. It means getting clear on values, priorities, and expectations—and doing so together. Here are steps to create clarity:

      1. Identify Core Values: Sit down as a couple and list the values that resonate with both of you. Examples might include honesty, kindness, or perseverance.
      2. Define Family Goals: Do you want to prioritize quality time, financial stability, or shared spiritual growth? Align on a vision that reflects your shared aspirations.
      3. Clarify Expectations: Discuss day-to-day roles and responsibilities. Who handles what, and how can you support each other better.

Communication: The Bridge to Understanding

If clarity is the blueprint, communication is the bridge that makes it actionable. Effective communication creates a safe space for every family member to feel heard and valued. Here’s how to improve communication:

      • Be Intentional: Set aside time for meaningful conversations. Whether it’s a weekly check-in or a quiet evening chat, make it a priority.
      • Practice Active Listening: Show empathy by truly listening. Repeat back what you hear to confirm understanding, e.g., “I hear that you’re feeling overwhelmed. How can I help?”
      • Be Honest but Kind: Speak the truth with love, focusing on solutions rather than blame.

Practical Tips for Unity Through Clarity and Communication

      1. Create a Family Charter: Write down your family’s mission, values, and goals. Frame it or post it somewhere visible as a reminder.
      2. Daily Connection Rituals: Small, consistent habits like morning hugs, dinner conversations, or bedtime reflections can work wonders.
      3. Conflict Resolution Strategy: Agree on a method for resolving disagreements—such as taking a pause to cool off before discussing a heated issue.

Building Unity with Your Spouse

Your partnership is the heart of the family. Strong unity between spouses creates a ripple effect of harmony. Here’s how to strengthen your bond:

      • Share Your “Why”: Revisit why you got married and what you’re building together.
      • Dream Together: Plan for the future as a team. Whether it’s a dream vacation or a career goal, dreaming together fosters connection.
      • Celebrate Wins: Acknowledge and celebrate the big and small victories, from paying off a debt to surviving a tough week.

When parents model unity through clarity and communication, children absorb those values. They learn to express themselves, work as a team, and value shared goals. A unified family doesn’t mean there are no disagreements; it means navigating them with respect and love.

Reflection Question:

What’s one area where clarity or communication could strengthen unity in your family this week? Take a small step toward improvement today.

Unity isn’t just a virtue; it’s a gift we give to ourselves and our families. By focusing on clarity and communication, you’re building a legacy of love and togetherness that will benefit future generations.

Joe is a husband, father, grandfather, author, speaker, educator, course creator, and parent/family coach.

He helps parents develop unity, find clarity, communicate, and develop consistency in their parenting with the Four C’s of Successful Families. You can find his work on social media.

In addition, the Four C’s newsletter is enjoyed by many as it encourages parents to self-care, build their relationships with their partners, and raise their children. 

And he loves to golf! 

Joseph Michael
Building Clarity in Family Values: A Path to Unity

Building Clarity in Family Values: A Path to Unity

by | Jan 15, 2025 | Relationships

Clarity is the foundation of unity in family life.

When each family member understands and aligns their values with the collective vision, the result is a harmonious and purposeful home. But how do you begin this process? It starts with individual reflection, moves to mutual understanding, and culminates in a shared family culture. Let’s walk through the three key steps:

Discovering Personal Values

Before creating unity as a family, it’s crucial to identify what you personally value. These values shape your decisions, guide your actions, and reflect what you hold most dear. Here’s how to begin:

      • Reflect on Past Experiences: Think about moments in your life that brought you immense joy, pride, or fulfillment. What values were present in those experiences? For example, a fulfilling career achievement might reflect the virtue of perseverance or excellence.
      • Consider What Sparks Emotion: Reflect on situations that deeply affect you, whether joy, frustration, or inspiration. Strong emotions often reveal underlying values.
      • Use a Values List: Look at a comprehensive list of values and virtues (e.g., honesty, kindness, growth) and highlight those that resonate most with you.
      • Prioritize: Narrow down your list to 5-10 non-negotiable core values.

Comparing and Aligning Values with Your Partner

Once you’ve identified your personal values, the next step is to share and compare them with your partner. This fosters understanding and helps identify common ground. Here’s how:

      • Schedule a Dedicated Conversation: Choose a relaxed time to discuss your values. Frame it as an opportunity to grow together, not as a debate.
      • Share Openly: Take turns explaining why each value is important to you. For instance, you might say, “Honesty is vital to me because it builds trust and authenticity.”
      • Look for Overlaps: Highlight values that both of you share. Common values often include family, integrity, or love.
      • Respect Differences: Acknowledge values that differ without judgment. Instead of seeing them as conflicting, view them as opportunities to learn from each other.

Building a United Family Life

Once you’ve clarified and aligned values, the next step is to integrate them into your family’s daily life. Here are actionable ways to create unity around shared values:

      • Create a Family Mission Statement: Write a short statement that encapsulates your family’s shared values and vision. For example, “Our family values kindness, perseverance, and gratitude. We strive to support each other and grow together.”
      • Set Family Goals: Translate your values into actionable goals. If you value quality time, set a goal to have weekly family game nights or outings.
      • Incorporate Values into Decisions: Use your values as a guide for making big decisions, such as choosing a school, planning vacations, or setting financial priorities.
      • Model and Reinforce Values: Children learn best by example. Demonstrate your shared values through your actions, whether it’s showing respect in disagreements or expressing gratitude for each other.
      • Revisit Regularly: Your priorities might shift as your family grows and evolves. Schedule periodic check-ins to discuss whether your shared values still align or need adjustment.

Examples of United Family Values in Action

To make this more concrete, let’s consider a few scenarios:

      • Value: Gratitude – Action: Begin each meal by sharing something you’re thankful for.
      • Value: Health – Action: Plan and prepare meals together and schedule active family outings.
      • Value: Learning – Action: Dedicate a weekly “family learning night” where everyone shares something new they’ve discovered.

Why This Matters

When individuals and families operate with clarity of values, decision-making becomes simpler, conflicts are minimized, and relationships deepen. A united family grounded in shared values provides children with stability, purpose, and a powerful example of harmonious living.

Reflection Questions:

  1. What are your top three personal values, and how do they influence your daily life?
  2. What shared values could you and your partner prioritize to strengthen unity in your family?
  3. What is one practical way to incorporate those values into your family’s routines this week?

Unity isn’t a static state; it’s a dynamic process of growing together through clarity and mutual respect. By discovering your values, aligning them with your partner’s, and living them out as a family, you create a legacy of love, respect, and shared purpose.

Here’s to building a family life that reflects the best of who you are—together.

Joe is a husband, father, grandfather, author, speaker, educator, course creator, and parent/family coach.

He helps parents develop unity, find clarity, communicate, and develop consistency in their parenting with the Four C’s of Successful Families. You can find his work on social media.

In addition, the Four C’s newsletter is enjoyed by many as it encourages parents to self-care, build their relationships with their partners, and raise their children. 

And he loves to golf! 

Joseph Michael