6 Ways to Stop Your Negative Thinking

6 Ways to Stop Your Negative Thinking

by | Jan 3, 2024 | Self-care

 

Most people know that negative thinking isn’t doing them any favors on the happiness front. However, fewer people realize that the patterns of their thinking, when habitually negative, could make them sick.

In an article for UCL News, Dr. Natalie Marchant discusses her research on the link between cognitive decline and negative thinking. She reveals that depression, anxiety, and PTSD are all risk factors for developing dementia. Furthermore, she notes that common to each of these conditions is a pattern of engaging in “Repetitive Negative Thinking.”*

You are not your negative thoughts!

The mechanism by which negative thinking causes physical harm to the body is thought to be through inducing stress which raises blood pressure and cortisol levels, among other less understood impacts. Fortunately, there are ways to break out of patterns and create new, healthier ones. The following six methods are a good place to start.

 

1.      Tune in

The first step in making any change is identifying what isn’t working. Until you do that, it’s woefully difficult to know where to begin. It helps to start by creating a habit of reflecting on the nature of your self-talk—the dialogue in your head that narrates what you’re doing and often has a value judgment attached to it.

At first, just identify patterns, note them, and reflect on how they make you feel. The more persistent the thoughts are, the more attention they should receive. If they’re both frequent and leave you feeling rotten, you’ve just identified a weed that needs pulling.

Once you establish that fact, you can begin incorporating a replacement positive thought each time the negative one emerges. Make it incremental and realistic. You cannot jump from frustration to pure joy in one giant leap. For example, if you habitually think, “I’m such an idiot!” It might not work to replace that thought with, “I’m such a genius!”

Your mind may convert that to sarcasm, undermining your effort. Instead, try something like, “I’m a work in progress.”  This is a true statement of any of us and promotes efficacy.

 Take Care

A simple way to improve the nature of your thoughts is to be mindful of how you’re treating yourself. If you eat low-quality food, don’t exercise, and get lousy sleep, your body and mind will not function at their best. In addition, those behaviors send the subconscious message that you do not value yourself. That alone can be the wellspring of negative thinking.

So, eat a balanced diet of the freshest, highest quality food you can get, prioritize moving every day, and get serious about your sleep hygiene. Do those three things, and your thoughts naturally turn in the right direction.

2.     Prioritize Relationships

The Blue Zone studies, which track some of the healthiest and longest-lived people globally, revealed nine consistent behaviors. Of those nine, four of them are related to relationships. These are moderate consumption of wine with friends, a shared faith-based community, prioritizing family, and a consistent long-term friend group.**

There is abundant additional evidence to support the value of forming and sustaining healthy relationships, but the simplest way to recognize the value is to try it. Connecting with others is very likely how we evolved our big brains. The more love you share, the more love you feel, perpetuating good emotions and a long life.

3.      Foster Gratitude

When negative thoughts start pounding in your head, pause and redirect. Think of one to three things that you’re grateful for. It doesn’t have to be complicated or expansive, but it can be. You might start with being grateful that you woke up. From there, you had a bowel movement, that you could eat breakfast, that nobody is shooting at you, that someone loves you, etc.

The point is to start paying attention to things that are going right for you and acknowledging them. This creates a habit of seeing the good and can help crowd out the bad. In life, I have noticed that you get what you focus on.

4.      Be More Kind

This can begin with being nicer to yourself. However, it should extend to others as well. Few things get you out of your head faster than thinking about another being. Doing something thoughtful for someone is a way to promote surges of good chemicals (oxytocin, dopamine) and add value to your day.

Even little things—a call, a text, opening a door, rescuing a bird, watering a plant, asking an employee at your favorite grocery store about their day (and listening)—can all make a difference. The more you do it, the easier it becomes. Also, it has the added benefit of making other people nicer to you. Try it; you’ll see. Can you do three acts of kindness each day? Make one of them for yourself.

5.     Don’t Take Things For Granted

You might not realize it, but ruminating on the past and worrying about the future are ways of getting outside of where you are. The more time you spend outside of the moment, the more likely you are to ignore what actually matters and what needs your attention in the here and now.

Life is fleeting, and we’re only here for a flash. Impermanence is something that we’d do our best not to forget. It’s not about morbidly pondering death but rather embracing each moment, living fully, and leaving nothing to regret. Live your life in the now and like you love to live, and it will love you back.

 

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Balancing Respect in Family Life

Balancing Respect in Family Life

by | Jan 1, 2024 | Parenting

Finding the Right Balance for Successful Families

Respect is an attitude of honoring ourselves and others as people of value.

What happens, though, if respect is overdeveloped or underdeveloped?

However, respect can manifest in less-than-ideal ways when taken to extremes, like any virtue. In this blog post, we will explore how respect can be overdeveloped or underdeveloped and discuss which virtues can help maintain a healthy balance.

Overdeveloped Respect:

    • Excessive Compliance: When respect is overdeveloped, it can lead to excessive compliance. Individuals may become so focused on respecting others’ opinions and wishes that they lose their own voice and identity. They may suppress their own needs and desires, which can eventually lead to feelings of frustration and unfulfilment.

    • Avoidance of Conflict: Overdeveloped respect might also result in an aversion to conflict at all costs. While conflict avoidance can benefit some situations, an excessive fear of disagreement can hinder healthy discussions and problem-solving.

    • Perfectionism: Overly respectful individuals might strive for perfection in their interactions, fearing that any mistake or misstep will be disrespectful. This can lead to anxiety and self-doubt, preventing personal growth and learning from experiences.

Underdeveloped Respect:

    • Disregard for Others: On the other hand, underdeveloped respect manifests as a complete disregard for others. This extreme can lead to rudeness, insensitivity, and a lack of empathy. It erodes trust and damages relationships.

    • Intolerance: Underdeveloped respect may result in intolerance for diversity and differing opinions. It can breed prejudice, discrimination, and conflict as individuals fail to acknowledge the inherent value in every person’s perspective.

    • Environmental Neglect: When respect for the Earth and all living things is underdeveloped, it can lead to environmental degradation and disregard for the consequences of our actions on the planet.

Balancing Virtues:

To keep the virtue of respect in balance, several other virtues can be particularly helpful:

    • Wisdom: Wisdom helps us discern when to speak up and when to listen, avoiding both excessive compliance and disregard for others.

    • Courage: Courage empowers us to address conflicts respectfully and assertively without fear of disrespecting others or compromising our values.

    • Empathy: Empathy allows us to understand and appreciate diverse perspectives, bridging the gap between overdeveloped and underdeveloped respect.

    • Humility: Humility reminds us that we are not infallible, and it’s okay to make mistakes. It keeps us from falling into the perfectionism trap.

    • Gratitude: Gratitude reminds us to respect the Earth and all living things by appreciating the interconnectedness of all life

When balanced with other virtues like wisdom, courage, empathy, humility, and gratitude, respect is a virtue that can foster healthy relationships, a harmonious society, and a deeper connection to the world around us. It’s essential to recognize when respect becomes excessive or insufficient and strive for a harmonious and balanced approach in our daily lives.

Respect is crucial in family dynamics, especially when children are involved. In fact, as I started this investigation into respect, it was hard to believe that you could have too much respect. Let’s explore how respect can be overdeveloped or underdeveloped within a family context and discuss which virtues can help parents maintain a healthy balance.

Overdeveloped Respect in a Family:

Here’s what overdeveloped respect might look like in a family:

    • Excessive Control: An overdeveloped sense of respect in parents can sometimes lead to excessive control. Parents might be so focused on maintaining order and discipline that they inadvertently stifle their children’s independence and personal growth.

    • Lack of Expression: In some cases, overemphasizing respect may discourage children from freely expressing their thoughts and emotions. Kids may feel pressured to conform to their parent’s expectations, resulting in an inability to assert themselves or communicate openly.

    • Perfectionism: Parents striving for perfect parenting, driven by an exaggerated sense of respect, may inadvertently create an environment where children fear making mistakes. This can hinder their ability to learn from experiences and develop resilience.

Underdeveloped Respect in a Family:

Here’s what underdeveloped respect might look like:

    • Disregard for Feelings: An underdeveloped sense of respect within a family can manifest as disregarding children’s feelings and opinions. Parents may dismiss their children’s thoughts, leading to resentment and a sense of insignificance in the young.

    • Lack of Boundaries: In some cases, underdeveloped respect may result in a lack of boundaries within the family. Children may grow up without a clear understanding of respect for personal space, time, or belongings, leading to conflicts and insecurity.

    • Inconsistent Discipline: Parents with an underdeveloped sense of respect may struggle with consistent discipline. This inconsistency can confuse children, making it challenging to understand the consequences of their actions and the importance of respecting rules.

Balancing Respect:

To maintain a balanced approach to respect within a family, consider these virtues:

    • Communication: Open and honest communication with children fosters a sense of respect for their opinions and feelings. It allows parents to strike a balance between guidance and autonomy.

    • Empathy: Empathy enables parents to connect with their children on an emotional level, validating their experiences and fostering mutual respect.

    • Boundaries: Establishing and respecting boundaries within the family teaches children the importance of personal space and respect for others’ needs.

    • Patience: Patience helps parents avoid excessive control and encourages them to allow children to learn from their mistakes.

    • Responsibility: Encouraging children to take responsibility for their actions and decisions helps them understand the consequences of their behavior and learn respect for rules and boundaries.

Respect within a family is a delicate balance that requires parents to avoid extremes of control or neglect while nurturing open communication, empathy, boundaries, patience, and responsibility. By embracing these virtues, parents can create a loving and respectful family environment that promotes their children’s healthy growth and development, ultimately strengthening family bonds and preparing the next generation for a respectful and harmonious world.

Respect is the one virtue every parent wants from their children. Let’s delve into the characteristics of overdeveloped and underdeveloped respect in children and how parents and caregivers can guide them toward a balanced understanding of this essential virtue.

Overdeveloped Respect in Children:

      • Excessive Obedience: Overdeveloped respect may manifest as overly obedient children, often to the point of suppressing their own thoughts, desires, and individuality. They may become people-pleasers, always seeking approval from others, even if it goes against their own well-being.
      • Fear of Disagreement: Children with an overdeveloped sense of respect might fear disagreement or confrontation. They may avoid expressing their opinions or asserting themselves in situations where it’s necessary, fearing that it might be disrespectful.
      • Perfectionism: An overemphasis on respect can lead to perfectionism in children. They may believe that making any mistake is disrespectful and strive for unrealistic standards, leading to anxiety and self-criticism.

Underdeveloped Respect in Children:

      • Disregard for Others: On the contrary, underdeveloped respect in children can manifest as a disregard for the feelings, needs, and boundaries of others. They may act in ways that are rude, insensitive, or even hurtful towards peers, siblings, or adults.
      • Intolerance: Children with underdeveloped respect may exhibit intolerance towards those who are different from them. This can lead to prejudiced attitudes, bullying, or exclusion of others based on race, gender, religion, or other differences.
      • Inability to Listen: These children may struggle with listening attentively and empathetically when others speak. They may interrupt, dismiss, or ignore the perspectives and emotions of those around them.

Balancing Respect in Children:

Balancing respect in children involves guiding them toward a healthy understanding of this virtue:

      • Teach Assertiveness: Encourage children to express their thoughts and feelings respectfully. Teach them it’s okay to disagree as long as it’s done with kindness and consideration for others.
      • Model Respectful Behavior: Children learn by example. Demonstrate respectful behavior in your interactions with them and with others in your life. Show them how to disagree without being disrespectful.
      • Empathy Education: Help children develop empathy by discussing the feelings and perspectives of others. Encourage them to imagine how someone else might feel in various situations.
      • Encourage Critical Thinking: Foster critical thinking skills in children so they can assess situations and make decisions that align with their values while respecting the rights and feelings of others.
      • Promote Diversity: Expose children to different cultures, backgrounds, and beliefs. Emphasize the value of diversity and the importance of treating everyone with kindness and respect, regardless of differences.

In essence, cultivating balanced respect in children involves empowering them to express themselves assertively, develop empathy, and appreciate diversity while ensuring they understand the importance of treating others with kindness, dignity, and consideration. This balanced approach helps them navigate the complexities of social interactions and contributes to their overall development as respectful individuals.

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Embrace the Power of Vision

Embrace the Power of Vision

by | Dec 27, 2023 | Self-care

As December unfolds its tranquil beauty, it invites us to step into the realm of possibility and dare to dream. The year may be drawing to a close, but another chapter of your life is about to begin. In this blog post, we will explore the transformative practice of envisioning the year ahead, setting inspiring yet achievable goals, and allowing your dreams to shape the path you wish to walk. So, let us embark on this uplifting journey of self-discovery and creation.

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Dreaming Your Way to a Remarkable Year Ahead

Dreaming is not a frivolous pursuit; it is the wellspring of inspiration and the foundation of growth. Your dreams can breathe life into your aspirations and shape your future. When you dare to dream and plan, you open doors to new possibilities, harness your inner strength and set the stage for remarkable achievements.

Step 1: Find a Quiet Refuge

To begin this transformative process, find a quiet refuge where you can let your thoughts wander freely. Choose a place to connect with your innermost desires, whether it’s a cozy corner of your home, a serene park, or a hidden alcove in a bustling café.

Step 2: Reflect on the Past Year

Take a moment to reflect on the year that’s coming to an end. What were your highlights, accomplishments, and moments of growth? Acknowledge the challenges you faced and the valuable lessons you learned. This reflection will provide a springboard for envisioning your future.

Step 3: Give Yourself Permission to Dream

Allow yourself to dream without limitations or self-doubt. Close your eyes and envision the year ahead. What do you want to achieve? How do you want to feel? Let your imagination roam freely and explore the possibilities that excite your spirit.

Step 4: Set Inspiring, Realistic Goals

From your dreams, distill concrete and achievable goals. Make them inspiring yet grounded in reality. Use the SMART (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, Time-bound) criteria as a guide. Your goals should resonate with your heart and align with your values.

Step 5: Create a Vision Board or Journal

Visual aids can be powerful tools for manifesting your dreams. Consider creating a vision board with images, quotes, and symbols representing your goals. Alternatively, maintain a journal where you jot down your dreams, goals, and the action steps required to achieve them.

Step 6: Break Goals into Actionable Steps

Break down your goals into actionable steps to turn your dreams into reality. What can you do today, this week, this month, and throughout the year to inch closer to your dreams? Create a timeline and prioritize these steps.

Step 7: Cultivate Resilience and Adaptability

Remember that the journey toward your dreams may not always be smooth. Challenges and unexpected detours may arise. Cultivate resilience and adaptability as your companions on this journey. Embrace setbacks as opportunities for growth and learning.

Step 8: Stay Connected to Your Vision

Lastly, stay connected to your vision throughout the year. Review your goals regularly, celebrate your progress, and make adjustments as needed. Share your dreams with supportive friends or mentors who can provide guidance and encouragement.

As you embark on this journey of dreaming and planning for the year ahead, may you be filled with hope, inspiration, and a deep sense of purpose. Your dreams guide you towards a life rich with meaning and fulfillment. Cherish them, nurture them, and let them illuminate your path.

May the coming year be a testament to your courage, resilience, and unwavering commitment to your dreams. With each step you take, you bring your vision closer to reality. Embrace this journey with an open heart, and may your year ahead be filled with joy, growth, and the realization of your deepest desires.

A Compassionate Self-Assessment for the Year’s End

This blog post will explore the significance of assessing your physical, emotional, and mental well-being and how you can gently and compassionately embark on this self-assessment journey.  Read here.

Coming This Month

Year-End Guide to Evaluating Your Relationships

In this blog post, we will delve into the art of evaluating your relationships with a heart full of encouragement and guidance, helping you make informed decisions on nurturing and cherishing these precious bonds. Read here.

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Coming This Month

Setting the Stage for a Bright Future

In this blog post, we will delve into the art of reviewing your goals with a sense of encouragement and to help you make the most of this introspective process. Read here.

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Embrace the Power of Vision

Reflecting on the Past Year: Setting the Stage for a Bright Future

by | Dec 20, 2023 | Self-care

As December unfolds and the year draws to a close, it’s a perfect time to embark on the soul-nourishing journey of self-reflection. A year has passed, leaving a trail of experiences, lessons, and memories. It’s an opportune moment to review your goals, assess your progress, and set the stage for a brighter future. In this blog post, we will delve into the art of reviewing your goals with a sense of encouragement and to help you make the most of this introspective process.

Setting Goals for the Year Ahead

Setting goals at the beginning of the year is a powerful practice. It provides you with a roadmap, a sense of purpose, and a clear vision for what you want to achieve. However, goals are not set in stone; they are dynamic and should evolve with you as you grow and change. Hence, the importance of reviewing them cannot be overstated.

Step 1: Create a Peaceful Environment

Setting the stage for reflection is crucial before diving into the nitty-gritty of goal review. Find a quiet, cozy corner where you can be alone with your thoughts. Light a scented candle, play soothing music, or simply sit in comfortable silence. This peaceful environment will help you connect with your inner self.

Step 2: Revisit Your Goals

Begin by revisiting the goals you set at the beginning of the year. Take your time to read through them carefully. Remember, it’s perfectly normal for some goals to have evolved or even changed entirely. Life is unpredictable, and our aspirations can shift with our experiences.

Step 3: Celebrate Your Achievements

Celebrate your wins and achievements, no matter how small they may seem. Reflect on the progress you’ve made, the obstacles you’ve overcome, and the skills you’ve developed along the way. Recognizing your accomplishments will boost your self-esteem and motivation.

Step 4: Assess Your Progress

Next, assess your progress toward each goal. Are you closer to achieving them than you were at the start of the year? If so, what actions or habits contributed to your success? Conversely, if you haven’t made as much progress as you hoped, what obstacles or distractions hindered your path?

Step 5: Align with Your Values

Evaluate whether your goals still align with your values and aspirations. Your values may evolve as you grow, leading to a shift in priorities. Be open to the possibility that some goals may no longer serve your authentic self. Embrace change as a natural part of your personal growth journey.

Step 6: Set New Intentions

Once you’ve reviewed your goals and assessed your progress, it’s time to set new intentions for the year ahead. Be mindful of your aspirations, values, and lessons learned throughout the year. What do you want to achieve, experience, or create in the coming year? Set SMART (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, Time-bound) goals that resonate with your authentic self.

Step 7: Craft an Action Plan

To turn your intentions into reality, craft a practical action plan. Break down your goals into smaller, actionable steps. Create a timeline and hold yourself accountable. Remember that consistency and perseverance are key to achieving your dreams. What virtues will help you meet your goals

Step 8: Embrace Self-Compassion

Throughout this process, remember to be kind to yourself. Self-compassion is a powerful tool that helps you navigate the ups and downs of life with grace. Embrace the imperfections and setbacks as opportunities for growth and learning.

Reflecting on your goals at the end of the year is a beautiful and transformative practice. It allows you to celebrate your achievements, realign with your values, and set intentions for a brighter future. Embrace change as a natural part of your growth journey, and approach the coming year with enthusiasm and determination.

As you embark on this journey of self-reflection, may you find clarity, inspiration, and the courage to pursue your dreams with unwavering dedication. Remember, the power to shape your future lies within you, waiting to be harnessed. Embrace it with open arms, and may the year ahead be filled with purpose, joy, and fulfillment.

A Compassionate Self-Assessment for the Year’s End

This blog post will explore the significance of assessing your physical, emotional, and mental well-being and how you can gently and compassionately embark on this self-assessment journey.  Read here.

Year-End Guide to Evaluating Your Relationships

In this blog post, we will delve into the art of evaluating your relationships with a heart full of encouragement and guidance, helping you make informed decisions on nurturing and cherishing these precious bonds. Read here.

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Coming This Month

Embrace the Power of Vision

In this blog post, we will delve into the art of reviewing your goals with a sense of encouragement to help you make the most of this introspective process.

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FAQ About Raising Resilient Kids

FAQ About Raising Resilient Kids

by | Dec 19, 2023 | Parenting

Welcome to a world of wonder and challenges, where the journey of parenthood unfolds with each passing day. As parents, we strive to nurture our children to be safe, healthy, successful, and happy individuals of impeccable character. In this ever-evolving quest, we often ponder questions that resonate with parents worldwide.

In our pursuit of raising children with strong moral fiber, resilience, and compassion, we encounter a multitude of uncertainties. How do we instill values in our children from a young age? What role does discipline play in character development? How can we help them build resilience and perseverance? Is encouraging community service beneficial? And what part does open communication play in shaping their character?

Let’s look at some frequently asked questions and provide thoughtful responses to empower you on your parenting journey. We understand that, as parents, you are not alone in these queries. We aim to offer you guidance that is semi-formal yet encouraging and uplifting.

As you navigate the intricate path of raising children with character, remember that it’s not about perfection but progress. The process of character development is an ongoing, dynamic journey that requires patience, dedication, and love. Every child is unique, and your role as a parent is instrumental in nurturing their values and virtues.

Nurturing Character: Raising Ethical and Resilient Children

So, let’s embark on this enlightening voyage together, addressing your questions and offering insights to help you raise ethical, resilient, and compassionate children who will one day make the world a better place.

Here are five questions that parents often ask about building character in their children, along with thoughtful responses to guide them on this important journey:

1. How can I instill good values in my child from a young age?

It’s wonderful that you’re thinking about this. Begin by modeling the values you want to instill, like honesty, kindness, and empathy. Engage in meaningful conversations, read stories illustrating these values, and praise your child when they demonstrate them.

2. What role does discipline play in character development?

Discipline is crucial but should be about teaching rather than punishing. Consistent, fair discipline helps children understand consequences and learn responsibility. Focus on positive reinforcement and setting clear expectations.

3. How can I help my child develop resilience and perseverance?

Building resilience starts with allowing your child to face challenges. Encourage them to try new things, support their efforts, and teach them that setbacks are opportunities to learn and grow. Be their cheerleader during tough times.

4. Should I encourage my child to volunteer or serve in the community?

Absolutely! Volunteering and community service can teach empathy, gratitude, and a sense of purpose. Encourage your child to engage in age-appropriate activities that align with their interests and values.

5. What role does open communication play in character development?

Open and honest communication is key. Create a safe space for your child to share their thoughts and feelings without fear of judgment. Listen actively, ask questions, and provide guidance when they seek it. You can guide them towards developing a strong character by maintaining a strong connection.

Building character is an ongoing process, and each child is unique. Be patient, offer love and guidance, and celebrate their growth. Your dedication to their character development will shape them into responsible, compassionate individuals.

As we conclude this insightful journey into the world of nurturing character in our children, it’s crucial to remember that parenting is a multifaceted adventure that requires not just the nurturing of our children but also the nurturing of ourselves and our relationships. In this pursuit, we introduce you to the Four C’s of Successful Families: Clarity, Communication, Consistency, and Community.

Clarity is the first step toward building a strong foundation for your family. When parents clearly understand what is essential to them personally and their family life, imparting those values to their children becomes easier. This clarity provides direction and purpose, guiding your parenting decisions.

Communication is the lifeblood of any healthy family. Effective communication lets you share your values, expectations, and emotions with your children openly and honestly. It fosters understanding, trust, and strong connections within the family.

Consistency is the steady hand that shapes character over time. When parents consistently model the values they wish to instill in their children and apply discipline fairly and lovingly, children learn valuable life lessons. Consistency provides a sense of security and helps children understand the consequences of their actions.

Community is the network that supports and reinforces your family’s values. Engage wisely with your community, seeking like-minded individuals and resources that align with your family’s principles. A supportive community can be a source of inspiration, encouragement, and shared experiences.

Incorporating the Four C’s into your family life can make the character-building journey more manageable and enjoyable. Putting self-care first and nurturing your relationship with your partner strengthens the foundation from which your children learn and grow. As parents, you set the example, and your children will observe and learn from your Clarity, Communication, Consistency, and Community involvement.

So, as you continue to navigate the beautiful and sometimes challenging terrain of parenthood, remember the Four C’s of Successful Families. Embrace them as guiding principles that not only help you raise children with strong character but also contribute to the well-being and harmony of your family. Your dedication to these principles will shape your children and create a nurturing environment where they can thrive and, in turn, contribute positively to the world.

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