Embracing Devotion: A Pathway to Fulfilling Parenthood

Embracing Devotion: A Pathway to Fulfilling Parenthood

In the hustle and bustle of parenthood, amidst the whirlwind of diapers, school runs, and bedtime stories, it’s easy for parents to lose sight of themselves and their relationships. Yet, amidst the chaos, there lies a beacon of light – the virtue of devotion.

Devotion is not just a word; it’s a profound commitment to something we hold dear, a passionate focus on our life’s purpose. It’s about wholeheartedly serving endeavors we love, including our role as parents and partners. Today, I want to invite you on a journey to explore how embracing devotion can transform your experience of parenthood, guiding you toward a more fulfilling and balanced life.

A fundamental truth lies at the heart of devotion: to care deeply for others, we must first care for ourselves. Parenthood often demands selflessness, but neglecting our needs leads to burnout and resentment. Imagine a pyramid with self-care forming its sturdy base. Just as a strong foundation supports a towering structure, nurturing ourselves provides the strength and resilience needed to navigate the challenges of raising children.

So, what does self-care look like? It’s about carving out moments for yourself amidst the chaos, whether it’s a morning meditation, a leisurely walk, or indulging in a hobby. It’s permitting yourself to rest without guilt, knowing that by refilling your cup, you have more to give to those you love.

Next comes the cornerstone of any thriving family – the partner relationship. Devotion to your partner is not just a promise spoken on your wedding day; it’s a commitment renewed daily through acts of love and kindness. It’s easy to let romance fall by the wayside amid parenting duties, but investing in your relationship is crucial for creating a stable and supportive environment for your children.

Take a moment to reflect on your relationship. How can you show your partner love and appreciation amidst the chaos of daily life? Whether it’s a heartfelt compliment, a surprise date night, or simply holding hands as you navigate parenthood together, these small gestures of devotion can strengthen your bond and set a powerful example for your children.

Finally, let’s consider the essence of parenting—guiding our children with love and intention. Devotion to parenting means aligning our actions with our values and creating a nurturing environment where our children can thrive. It’s about setting boundaries with compassion, fostering open communication, and leading by example.

Parents face countless daily decisions—from discipline to education to screen time limits. By grounding ourselves in our values and staying true to our principles, we can navigate these choices with clarity and confidence, knowing that we are acting in the best interest of our children.

In closing, I want to leave you with this thought: devotion is not a burden to bear but a gift to embrace. By prioritizing self-care, nurturing your partner relationship, and aligning your parenting with your values, you enrich your life and lay the foundation for a thriving family.

So, let us embrace devotion wholeheartedly – as a guiding light on our journey through parenthood, illuminating the path toward love, fulfillment, and lasting happiness.

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From Parenthood to Personal Growth: Virtues Cultivated in Challenges

From Parenthood to Personal Growth: Virtues Cultivated in Challenges

Did you see the article for a family meeting discussion designed to help our children appreciate that adversity is an exceptional teacher? The most significant hurdles and trials life throws our way tend to impart lessons of the utmost importance. These lessons profoundly impact our character, molding us in various ways, both as children and parents.

They offer us resilience and grit in areas where we might have felt vulnerable or helpless. While it’s instinctual to steer clear of obstacles, the reality is that embracing these challenges as opportunities for personal growth equips us with the skills to navigate even the most formidable circumstances life may present. 

 Parenthood is an incredible journey filled with joy but also riddled with challenges and obstacles. We know these hurdles can be formidable, but let’s talk about how they can help us grow and become better parents along the way.


Challenges test our endurance and determination as parents. Persistence becomes a valuable virtue, whether dealing with a child’s stubborn behavior or facing the daily struggles of managing a household. It’s the ability to keep going despite setbacks and obstacles. By persisting through these challenges, we demonstrate to our children the importance of commitment, hard work, and living by family values.

Flexibility or Adaptability:

Parenting is a dynamic journey; each child is unique, requiring different approaches. Being flexible and adaptable as parents means being willing to change our strategies when necessary. It’s about recognizing that what worked yesterday may not work today and being open to trying new approaches. This virtue teaches our children the value of flexibility in problem-solving and the ability to embrace change.


Resilience is the ability to bounce back from adversity, a quality parents often develop as they face the inevitable ups and downs of parenting. It’s about maintaining a sense of hope and optimism even in challenging times. When our children witness us navigating difficulties with resilience, they learn that setbacks are a part of life but not a reason to give up. This virtue instills in them the courage to persevere through their challenges.


Loyalty in parenting involves steadfast support and love for our children, even when they make mistakes or face difficulties. It’s about standing by them through thick and thin, offering a safe and unwavering presence in their lives, and recognizing the value of consequences. This virtue helps build trust and security within the family and teaches our children the importance of loyalty in their relationships.


Courage as parents means having the courage to make tough decisions for the well-being of our children, even when those decisions are not easy or popular. It involves confronting personal fears and uncertainties and acting in the best interests of our family. This virtue sets an example for our children, showing them that facing challenges and taking risks are essential to personal growth.

Other Virtues:

In addition to the virtues mentioned above, parenting challenges can also help us develop various other virtues, such as:

Compassion: Challenges often require us to understand and empathize with our children’s struggles, teaching them the importance of empathy towards others.

Patience: Parenting tests our patience daily, and by learning to remain calm in the face of frustration, we teach our children the virtue of patience.

Humility: Acknowledging our mistakes and seeking to improve as parents fosters humility and teaches our children that no one is perfect.

Gratitude: Parenting challenges can remind us of our blessings, instilling in our children a sense of appreciation for the love and support in their lives.

Overall, facing parenting challenges with these virtues in mind helps us grow as individuals and as a family and imparts invaluable life lessons to our children, equipping them with the skills and values they need to navigate their challenges and become responsible, compassionate, and resilient adults.

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The Honest Path to Parental Well-Being: Embracing Self-Care

The Honest Path to Parental Well-Being: Embracing Self-Care

Parenthood is a beautiful journey filled with love, joy, and endless moments of wonder. However, it can also be incredibly demanding, leaving little time for oneself. Parents often prioritize their children’s needs, sometimes neglecting our well-being. Let’s explore the importance of being honest with yourself about self-care and how it can positively impact your own life and your family’s.

The Self-Care Dilemma

“Self-care” has become a buzzword in recent years, but it’s not just another passing trend. Self-care is about nourishing your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. It’s not selfish; it’s necessary. However, for many parents, prioritizing themselves can feel guilt-inducing or simply impossible due to their busy schedules.

The Importance of Honesty

Being honest with yourself about self-care starts with recognizing your own needs. Ask yourself:

1. What Do I Truly Need? The first step is to identify what rejuvenates you. Is it alone time, exercise, hobbies, or simply quiet moments with a good book? Understanding your unique needs is vital.

2. What Are My Limits? Parenting can be overwhelming, and it’s essential to acknowledge when you’re reaching your limits. Ignoring burnout can lead to exhaustion and negatively impact your family’s life.

3. What Are My Guilt Triggers? Many parents feel guilty about taking time for themselves. It’s crucial to identify these triggers and work on reframing them. Remember, self-care benefits not only you but also your family.

The Benefits of Self-Care for Parents

1. Increased Energy: Taking time for self-care can boost your energy levels, allowing you to be more present and engaged with your children.

2. Improved Mental Health: Self-care activities can reduce stress and anxiety, helping you maintain a positive mindset in challenging situations.

3. Better Parenting: When well-rested and emotionally balanced, you can respond more effectively to your children’s needs.

4. Modeling Healthy Behavior: By practicing self-care, you teach your children the importance of self-love and self-respect.

Making Self-Care a Reality

Once you’ve been honest about your self-care needs, it’s time to make them a reality.

1. Schedule It: Treat self-care as an appointment on your calendar. Allocate time for self-care activities regularly, even just a few minutes daily.

2. Seek Support: Be bold and ask for help from your partner, family, or friends. They can assist in taking care of the kids while you recharge.

3. Set Boundaries: Communicate your self-care needs with your family. Let them know that this time is essential for your well-being.

4. Explore Small Changes: Even minor adjustments in your routine can make a big difference. Find ways to incorporate self-care into your daily life.

5. Embrace Imperfection: Parenting is a journey of ups and downs. It’s okay to have days when self-care doesn’t go as planned. Be kind to yourself and keep trying.

Being honest about self-care is not a luxury; it’s a necessity. As parents, we owe it to ourselves and our children to be the best versions of ourselves. By prioritizing self-care, you’re taking care of your own well-being and setting an example for your children on how to lead a balanced and fulfilling life. So, take a deep breath, embrace honesty, and make self-care integral to your parenting journey. Your family will thank you for it.

When trying to build a habit of self-care, the whole process can seem daunting. There are so many different areas you will need and want to focus on to be truly healthy and happy. Therefore, it’s so important to start small. Studies have shown “baby steps” work best when it comes to forming new habits.

Every month in our newsletter we focus on different habits of self-care. This allows you to focus on one habit at a time. Each habit is meant to be formed over the course of one month. This month of September we are working relaxing and de-stressing.

The key is to stick to slow and steady progress. This is where we will create the most lasting change. Think of it as running a marathon instead of sprinting a short distance.

The habits you will focus over a years time include:


Eating Right


Setting Healthy Boundaries

Treat Yourself

Practice Gratitude

Get Outside

Learn Something New

Relax and De-Stress

Work on Relationships

Be More Mindful



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Top Ten Stress Management Strategies

Top Ten Stress Management Strategies

The Best Practices for a Healthy Mind & Body

Nothing creates more destruction to the mind and body than stress. With anxiety around what has happened, what is happening right now, and what will happen tomorrow. In fact, the American Psychological Association (APA) recently reported that, “While numbers, prior to 2020, hovered around 30-35 percent of adults admitting extra stress due to societal stressors, the pandemic has made almost half of adults (48 percent) unsure about their stability.”

Commonly people are reporting the same stress effects: body tension, quick tempered, and unexpected mood swings.

With added pressure to adapt to a different lifestyle and thought process, many adults find themselves pulling back their emotions and reducing their interactions with others in fear of rejection or community ailments. Not only does this defeat the purpose of using your other attributes, but the extra tension will begin to affect your body and mind.

Let us look at the top ten stress management strategies that you can begin today to start feeling your best again:

Meditate Those Thoughts Away

Meditation is a form of focus on a certain action or verbiage. By mentally sorting through the moment that has caused dismay, gives your brain a chance to react on a more civil response as opposed to an emotional retort.

Find a quiet area to mindfully breath and unplug physically. If you experienced harsh words, focus on the words themselves, not the meaning. Remind yourself that this is not personal. Use these few minutes to work out the emotions and keep your focus on coming back to level mood.

Walk It Out

Exercising is a great tool to use when stressed. While there may not be time to hit the gym each day, a small walk around the neighborhood can help with de-stressing. With eternal sensors working with physical sensors, the brain does not have as much energy to keep up with stress and the task at hand.

Each time you do exercise, strive to do a little more each day. If walking around the block is helping your mind, but it is still racing, try a different route or walk around twice more. Use music to keep your enthusiasm going and drink water for hydration.

Control What You Can With A Daily Schedule

When things in your life seem uncontrollable or chaotic, check yourself. Are you changing your daily tasks to accommodate others more often or finding that the day is simply too short to complete chores? Write down what must be done. Make yourself accountable to any changes and the reasons why you deterred from any activities.

If you know there are certain errands such as grocery shopping or doctors’ visits, this will fall under a controlled task. Having a last-minute lunch with a co-worker is an un-controlled task. At the end of the day, check your schedule. Mark off any items that you completed and re-schedule the undone tasks for another day.

Do Not Forget Self-Care

In times of high stress, it is a natural reaction to put your own health on the back burner. Even though this may seem doable in short spurts, the effects it is having on the body and mind can last much longer creating poor habits.

Instead of reaching for the sweats and t-shirt, put on a favorite clothing item. If your hair needs a good trim, head to the local beautician or barber for an updated look. Once a month, treat yourself to a pedicure or facial. By taking the time to care for your body, your mind is flooded with feel good endorphins instead of anxiety.

Write A Letter

While this simple act may seem like a waste of time, it has quite the opposite effect. By expressing your thoughts to the subject about how the moment affected your thought process and beliefs, you are placing those feelings into the letter instead of yourself.

If your co-worker was using certain language while engaging in conversation with you earlier in the day, instead of calling out their behavior in person, express why it bothered your day. Keep the words professional and non-threatening. Read through the letter when you are done. Now throw it away along with the negative emotions.

Crank Up The Radio

After a long day at the office, you may not be in the mood for rock music but could be comforted by softer tunes. Pick music that brings happy memories and calming moments. Focus on the music as opposed to the lyrics. By having this minor distraction available, the body and mind have a chance to adapt.

If stress is disrupting your sleep patterns, turn on some white noise music. Think trickling water streams or forest sounds. Use deep breathing exercises to relax the body. Now lay down and enjoy the music.

Engage In A Hobby

While hobbies are often listed as outdoor activities, there are multiple indoor hobbies to engage in. From sewing to painting can be done in short sessions. The idea is to pick a hobby that engages your senses and mind. Not only does this make your mind feel productive, but your body will feel more relaxed.

If anxiety keeps you from sitting too long, keep different crafts around the house. Keep crosswords or books nearby for quiet moments. Use more active hobbies during the day, like building bird houses.

Make Friends With Nature

A quick and easy way to destress is to go outside. It can be as adventurous as a hike in the mountains or as calming as sitting on your porch. By giving your internal senses something else to concentrate on, the anxiety and stress will settle down. This is also a great way to soak up needed Vitamin D.

Each day, step outside. If the week is too busy for a nature hike, grab the family and do an ice cream run. While walking to the store for your treat, stop to look at different trees and flowers. Focus on what is growing around you, instead of the brick wall of anxiety.

Seek Out Therapy

While stress is a normal reaction to life changes, it can lead to long-term effects. If you find that the anxiety is disrupting your daily schedule, try therapy. A recent study conducted by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) concluded, “19.2 percent of U.S. adults received any mental health treatment in the past 12 months.”

Use these sessions to work through the stress and how you can avoid them in the future. Practice what your counselor suggests and keep yourself on a mental schedule. Before you know it, the anxiety is quieted, and your mind can think more rationally as opposed to emotionally.

Keep Your Thoughts Positive

When going through stressful times, the mind struggles to find the pragmatic solution. Work through each negative emotion and find a positive action. By mentally repeating this constructive thought process, the stress around the moment is brought into a more positive light.

If your anxious about a job interview, remind yourself why you are the right fit for the position. “I am unsure about the programs, but I am ready to learn.” By advocating for your senses, this allows for less anxiety and more mindfulness.

In Closing

Remind yourself that some stress can be healthy for your emotions. This not only keeps you alert to your surroundings but advocates for your feelings. As famed Lee Iacocca once claimed, “In times of great stress or adversity, its always best to keep busy, to plow your anger and your energy into something positive.”

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