Addressing Boredom: Teaching Creativity and Creating Bonds

Addressing Boredom: Teaching Creativity and Creating Bonds

Your Attention or Their Independence?

Addressing the boredom issue with our children involves teaching them how to be creative and leaving space for them to be creative. There are times when it’s good for parents to take the opportunity to bond and spend time with their children.  If you’ve been distracted by other responsibilities, use this as your time to reconnect. Sometimes their boredom is a call for more of your attention.

Demonstrate affection through physical touch, listen closely to what they have to say, and create family rituals that encourage conversation and quality time together. By nurturing these bonds, you can help your child feel seen, heard, and valued, reducing their boredom while creating lasting memories.

How do you determine if more of your attention is needed or when to help them learn about their responsibilities? Here are a few strategies to help you navigate this decision in real-life scenarios:

1. Assess their emotional state: Pay attention to your child’s emotional well-being. If they seem particularly down, anxious, or disconnected, it may indicate a need for more attention and support from you. Engage in conversations, offer reassurance, and actively listen to their concerns. Providing a safe space for them to express their feelings can alleviate boredom stemming from emotional distress.

2. Consider their age and developmental stage: Younger children, especially preschoolers, may require more hands-on engagement and guidance from parents due to their limited attention spans and developing independence. They may benefit from structured activities, interactive play, and parental involvement. As children grow older and become more independent, gradually encourage them to explore their interests and entertain themselves while still maintaining open lines of communication.

3. Evaluate the situation: Assess the environment and circumstances surrounding your child’s boredom. Are they in a setting that lacks stimulating activities or social interaction? In such cases, offering more attention and suggesting engaging alternatives, such as playing together or arranging a playdate, can be beneficial. Conversely, if they have access to various resources, hobbies, and opportunities for independent play, encourage them to tap into their creativity and problem-solving skills.

4. Gauge their energy and motivation levels: Every child has different energy levels and preferences. If your child appears tired, fatigued, or lacking motivation, they may benefit from quality time with you to recharge and regain enthusiasm. Engaging in low-energy activities like reading together or simply having a conversation can be nurturing during such moments. On the other hand, if they are full of energy and seeking stimulation, guide them towards activities they can do independently, such as art projects, building with blocks, or engaging in physical play.

Remember, flexibility is key in parenting. Some days your child may need more attention, while on other days they can explore their own interests. By being attuned to their emotions, considering their age and developmental stage, evaluating the situation, and understanding their energy levels, you can make informed decisions on when to give more attention and when to encourage independent play. It’s an ongoing process of finding the right balance that suits your child’s needs while fostering their growth and independence.

Ways of Giving Your Child More Attention:

Sometimes, complaints about boredom are a cry for more parental attention. If you’ve been preoccupied with other responsibilities, use this opportunity to reconnect with your child. Implement the following strategies to give them the attention they need:

  • Demonstrate affection: Physical touch, such as hugs, can have powerful effects on your child’s well-being and foster a stronger connection.
  • Active listening: Show genuine interest in what your child has to say. Take walks together, providing them with your undivided attention. Ask relevant questions and share your own experiences.
  • Create family rituals: Schedule regular family dinners to focus on conversation and healthy eating. For younger children, make bedtime enjoyable by reading stories and singing songs.

Here are some ideas of how to get them past their bored stage in an article “

I’m Bored”, Helping Your Child Entertain Themselves

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Parents: Help Your Children Appreciate Music

Parents: Help Your Children Appreciate Music

Make Music a Part of Your Child’s Education

Are you a parent who’s concerned that your children may be missing out when it comes to music education? Budget cuts in arts programs at public schools could limit your child’s opportunities to play an instrument or learn about great composers.

Benefits of Music Education:

1.     Enhance academic performance. Some studies have shown that kids who can play instruments receive higher SAT scores. Engaging with music involves math, science, and memory skills, as well as motor coordination.

2.     Explore other cultures. Even if your knowledge of French is limited to Frere Jacques, you realize how rhymes make it easier to speak other languages. Music also provides a window into how others live around the world.

3.     Promote teamwork. Bands and orchestras collaborate and resolve challenges. Each member waits their turn and respects the others’ contributions.

4.     Teach delayed gratification. Video games like Guitar Hero may be fun, but they don’t really teach you to play guitar. Kids who practice with a real instrument experience the rewards of perseverance.

5.     Build confidence. Racking up tangible accomplishments boosts self-esteem. Performing before a live audience can also be an early lesson in leadership and presentation abilities.

Encouraging Your Child’s Music Appreciation:

1.     Start early. Many experts think that the capacity for musical sensibility peaks between birth and age, nine so use age-appropriate methods. Your baby loves the sound of your voice, so chant while you rock them. Encourage your toddler to make noise with homemade shakers and drums.

2.     Sing together. Babies will often mimic any sound you make, while slightly older kids will enjoy silly songs. By the time they’re ready for elementary school, you can start introducing simple concepts like tempo and beat.

3.     Share activities. Keep it interesting with crafts and outings. Draw pictures of instruments to color, and check neighborhood calendars for children’s performances.

4.     Broaden their exposure. Drench your home in pleasant sounds. Play classical music and jazz on the radio. Offer sheet music and books.

Supporting Your Child’s Music Studies:

1.     Talk with the teacher. Choose a music instructor with a warm personality who can describe their lesson plan in convincing detail. Ask them how you can assist your child, especially if you don’t know much about music yourself.

2.     Attend classes. Your child might feel more comfortable if you go with them to classes at first. Try to observe closely without distracting them from listening to the teacher.

3.     Praise effort. Let your child know you recognize their progress. Be specific about what they’re doing well, whether it’s practicing on a daily basis or playing an entire piece without hitting a single wrong note.

4.     Show enthusiasm. Show up for each performance that you possibly can. Give a big round of applause and take pictures for posterity. Help your child stay on track by engaging them in setting daily goals and figuring out activities of their own for holiday breaks and summer vacation.


5.     Make it fun. Remember that the main purpose is to help your child enjoy music, so let them decide how far they want to go. Let them know you love them just as much if they want to trade in their piano lessons for horseback riding.

Make symphonies and pop songs part of your family activities. Increasing your child’s understanding of music will enhance their performance in many arenas, and give them a source of joy and relaxation they can count on throughout their lives.

Here is a great PDF from NAMM (National Association of Music Merchants Foundation) on the benefits of music to child development.  The Benefits of Music Education 

The video is a suggested powerpoint to present to Board of Education’s in support of Arts Education available at  I have created it into a video.




Creativity is the power of imagination. We are open to inspiration, which ignites our originality. With creativity, we are resourceful and intuitive. We solve problems in new and surprising ways. We take time for dreaming. Discovering our own special talents is a gift to the world, whether making a meal, playing a sport, or creating a craft. Creativity connects us to beauty of sound, design, color, movement, ideas, and words, and allows us to bring something new into the world. Creativity brings our gifts to fruition.


Let us use the different gifts allotted to each of us by God’s grace.

— Romans 12:6

 The Practice of Creativity

  • I treasure my imagination.
  • I am innovative in solving problems.
  • I take time for inspiration.
  • I entertain my dreams.
  • I remember to play.
  • I develop my gifts through learning and discipline.
  • I dare to be original.
Definitions and practices of virtue are used with permission from the Virtues Project™.

In Family Life

The virtue of creativity within a family is beautifully demonstrated through a collective atmosphere of innovation and open-mindedness. It begins with encouraging each member, from the youngest to the oldest, to express themselves freely and explore their unique talents and interests. In a creative family, you’ll often find a space where artistic endeavors, such as painting, writing, or music, are not only celebrated but actively nurtured.

Moreover, problem-solving is approached with a creative mindset, fostering an environment where challenges are opportunities for imaginative solutions. Family members share and collaborate on ideas, fostering a culture of brainstorming and innovation.

Ultimately, the virtue of creativity in a family is not just about producing art but about cultivating an atmosphere that values and embraces the imaginative spirit of each member, leading to a stronger and more harmonious bond among them.

Balancing Creativity

Virtues that contribute to maintaining a harmonious balance with creativity.

      • Wisdom: Wisdom helps individuals discern when to harness their creativity and when to exercise practicality. It allows them to make informed judgments about when creativity should take the lead and when it’s necessary to follow established conventions.
      • Discipline: Discipline instills the necessary work ethic and routine to bring imagination to fruition. It ensures that creative ideas are not merely dreams but are transformed into tangible reality.
      • Open-Mindedness: Open-mindedness encourages individuals to be receptive to new ideas and different perspectives, fostering the growth of their creative thinking. It helps them break free from the shackles of routine and tradition.
      • Courage: Courage empowers individuals to take risks and step out of their comfort zones, allowing them to freely explore and express their creativity. It helps overcome the fear of failure that can stifle imaginative endeavors.
      • Patience: Patience allows individuals to persevere in their creative pursuits, understanding that great achievements often take time. It prevents frustration from stifling their imaginative endeavors

By embracing these complementary virtues, individuals can ensure that creativity remains a source of inspiration and innovation without veering to extremes. They can harness their creative power to solve problems, make meaningful contributions, and bring beauty into the world while maintaining a sense of practicality and balance.