creativity

Addressing Boredom: Teaching Creativity and Creating Bonds

by Joe Van Deuren | Jul 21, 2023 | Parenting

Your Attention or Their Independence?

Addressing the boredom issue with our children involves teaching them how to be creative and leaving space for them to be creative. There are times when it’s good for parents to take the opportunity to bond and spend time with their children. If you’ve been distracted by other responsibilities, use this as your time to reconnect. Sometimes their boredom is a call for more of your attention.

Demonstrate affection through physical touch, listen closely to what they have to say, and create family rituals that encourage conversation and quality time together. By nurturing these bonds, you can help your child feel seen, heard, and valued, reducing their boredom while creating lasting memories.

How do you determine if more of your attention is needed or when to help them learn about their responsibilities? Here are a few strategies to help you navigate this decision in real-life scenarios:

1. Assess their emotional state: Pay attention to your child’s emotional well-being. If they seem particularly down, anxious, or disconnected, it may indicate a need for more attention and support from you. Engage in conversations, offer reassurance, and actively listen to their concerns. Providing a safe space for them to express their feelings can alleviate boredom stemming from emotional distress.

2. Consider their age and developmental stage: Younger children, especially preschoolers, may require more hands-on engagement and guidance from parents due to their limited attention spans and developing independence. They may benefit from structured activities, interactive play, and parental involvement. As children grow older and become more independent, gradually encourage them to explore their interests and entertain themselves while still maintaining open lines of communication.

3. Evaluate the situation: Assess the environment and circumstances surrounding your child’s boredom. Are they in a setting that lacks stimulating activities or social interaction? In such cases, offering more attention and suggesting engaging alternatives, such as playing together or arranging a playdate, can be beneficial. Conversely, if they have access to various resources, hobbies, and opportunities for independent play, encourage them to tap into their creativity and problem-solving skills.

4. Gauge their energy and motivation levels: Every child has different energy levels and preferences. If your child appears tired, fatigued, or lacking motivation, they may benefit from quality time with you to recharge and regain enthusiasm. Engaging in low-energy activities like reading together or simply having a conversation can be nurturing during such moments. On the other hand, if they are full of energy and seeking stimulation, guide them towards activities they can do independently, such as art projects, building with blocks, or engaging in physical play.

Remember, flexibility is key in parenting. Some days your child may need more attention, while on other days they can explore their own interests. By being attuned to their emotions, considering their age and developmental stage, evaluating the situation, and understanding their energy levels, you can make informed decisions on when to give more attention and when to encourage independent play. It’s an ongoing process of finding the right balance that suits your child’s needs while fostering their growth and independence.

Ways of Giving Your Child More Attention:

Sometimes, complaints about boredom are a cry for more parental attention. If you’ve been preoccupied with other responsibilities, use this opportunity to reconnect with your child. Implement the following strategies to give them the attention they need:

Demonstrate affection: Physical touch, such as hugs, can have powerful effects on your child’s well-being and foster a stronger connection.
Active listening: Show genuine interest in what your child has to say. Take walks together, providing them with your undivided attention. Ask relevant questions and share your own experiences.
Create family rituals: Schedule regular family dinners to focus on conversation and healthy eating. For younger children, make bedtime enjoyable by reading stories and singing songs.

Here are some ideas of how to get them past their bored stage in an article “

I’m Bored”, Helping Your Child Entertain Themselves

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Parents: Help Your Children Appreciate Music

by Joe Van Deuren | May 15, 2023 | Parenting

Make Music a Part of Your Child’s Education

Are you a parent who’s concerned that your children may be missing out when it comes to music education? Budget cuts in arts programs at public schools could limit your child’s opportunities to play an instrument or learn about great composers.

Benefits of Music Education:

1. Enhance academic performance. Some studies have shown that kids who can play instruments receive higher SAT scores. Engaging with music involves math, science, and memory skills, as well as motor coordination.

2. Explore other cultures. Even if your knowledge of French is limited to Frere Jacques, you realize how rhymes make it easier to speak other languages. Music also provides a window into how others live around the world.

3. Promote teamwork. Bands and orchestras collaborate and resolve challenges. Each member waits their turn and respects the others’ contributions.

4. Teach delayed gratification. Video games like Guitar Hero may be fun, but they don’t really teach you to play guitar. Kids who practice with a real instrument experience the rewards of perseverance.

5. Build confidence. Racking up tangible accomplishments boosts self-esteem. Performing before a live audience can also be an early lesson in leadership and presentation abilities.

Encouraging Your Child’s Music Appreciation:

1. Start early. Many experts think that the capacity for musical sensibility peaks between birth and age, nine so use age-appropriate methods. Your baby loves the sound of your voice, so chant while you rock them. Encourage your toddler to make noise with homemade shakers and drums.

2. Sing together. Babies will often mimic any sound you make, while slightly older kids will enjoy silly songs. By the time they’re ready for elementary school, you can start introducing simple concepts like tempo and beat.

3. Share activities. Keep it interesting with crafts and outings. Draw pictures of instruments to color, and check neighborhood calendars for children’s performances.

4. Broaden their exposure. Drench your home in pleasant sounds. Play classical music and jazz on the radio. Offer sheet music and books.

Supporting Your Child’s Music Studies:

1. Talk with the teacher. Choose a music instructor with a warm personality who can describe their lesson plan in convincing detail. Ask them how you can assist your child, especially if you don’t know much about music yourself.

2. Attend classes. Your child might feel more comfortable if you go with them to classes at first. Try to observe closely without distracting them from listening to the teacher.

3. Praise effort. Let your child know you recognize their progress. Be specific about what they’re doing well, whether it’s practicing on a daily basis or playing an entire piece without hitting a single wrong note.

4. Show enthusiasm. Show up for each performance that you possibly can. Give a big round of applause and take pictures for posterity. Help your child stay on track by engaging them in setting daily goals and figuring out activities of their own for holiday breaks and summer vacation.

5. Make it fun. Remember that the main purpose is to help your child enjoy music, so let them decide how far they want to go. Let them know you love them just as much if they want to trade in their piano lessons for horseback riding.

Make symphonies and pop songs part of your family activities. Increasing your child’s understanding of music will enhance their performance in many arenas, and give them a source of joy and relaxation they can count on throughout their lives.

Here is a great PDF from NAMM (National Association of Music Merchants Foundation) on the benefits of music to child development. The Benefits of Music Education

The video is a suggested powerpoint to present to Board of Education’s in support of Arts Education available at https://www.nammfoundation.org/ I have created it into a video.

by Joe Van Deuren | Jun 24, 2021 | Virtues

Description

Creativity is the spark of imagination that inspires us to bring something new and meaningful into the world. It is the openness to ideas and possibilities that ignites originality and resourcefulness. When we cultivate creativity, we discover new ways to solve problems, make connections, and express ourselves. Creativity invites us to dream, explore the beauty of sound, design, color, movement, and words, and see the world through fresh eyes.

This virtue empowers us to embrace intuition and curiosity, transforming ordinary moments into extraordinary expressions of our unique gifts. Whether cooking a meal, crafting a story, playing a sport, or designing a project, creativity enriches our lives and connects us to the wonder of creation. By nurturing our creative talents, we offer the world something truly special, fulfilling our potential and contributing to a shared sense of beauty and innovation.

Creativity is not just for artists or inventors; it is a way of approaching life with a sense of play, possibility, and purpose. It reminds us that every person has the power to create, and every act of creation brings light to the world.

Affirmations for Creativity

1. I welcome new ideas with an open mind.
This affirmation encourages a mindset of curiosity and receptiveness, which is essential for sparking creativity.

2. I allow myself time to dream and imagine.
Giving yourself permission to dream nurtures the fertile ground where creativity flourishes.

3. Every problem holds an opportunity for a creative solution.
This practice shifts focus from obstacles to possibilities, fostering innovative thinking.

4. I trust my intuition to guide my creativity.
Tapping into intuition builds confidence in your unique creative process and instincts.

5. I embrace mistakes as stepping stones to new ideas.
Reframing mistakes as opportunities encourages risk-taking, a key element of creativity.

6. I find inspiration in the beauty around me.
Noticing beauty in everyday life enhances your ability to connect with creative energy and ideas.

7. I am resourceful and use what I have to create something new.
Creativity often thrives within limitations, turning resourcefulness into an artistic advantage.

8. I make space for play and experimentation in my daily life.
Playfulness unlocks creativity by removing pressure and allowing for free expression.

9. I celebrate the originality of my ideas, no matter how small.
Acknowledging your creative efforts builds confidence and motivates continued exploration.

10. I am a creator, adding value to the world in my own unique way.
This affirmation reinforces a sense of purpose and contribution, inspiring you to share your creativity with others.

Quotes

“The desire to create is one of the deepest yearnings of the human soul..” — Dieter F. Uchtdorf

“Creativity is intelligence having fun.” — Albert Einstein

“You can’t use up creativity. The more you use, the more you have.” — Maya Angelou

Creativity In Family Life

Creativity in family life is the ability to approach everyday moments with imagination, originality, and resourcefulness. It is about finding joy in creating together, solving problems in new ways, and embracing the beauty of each family member’s unique contributions. Creativity allows families to turn ordinary experiences into extraordinary memories, whether through storytelling, art projects, cooking together, or simply reimagining routines.

For parents, creativity means modeling flexibility, curiosity, and openness, showing children that thinking outside the box is valuable. It is about encouraging exploration, valuing mistakes as learning opportunities, and celebrating each family member’s unique ideas.

Creativity blossoms for children when they feel safe expressing themselves, exploring their imagination, and trying new things without fear of judgment. It helps them develop confidence, problem-solving skills, and a sense of wonder about the world.

Together, families who practice creativity build stronger bonds by sharing laughter, dreaming big, and learning from one another. Creativity turns challenges into opportunities and strengthens a family’s ability to navigate life with resilience and joy. When embraced as a family value, creativity nurtures a home filled with inspiration, connection, and endless possibilities.

Balancing Creativity

Creativity, when in balance, is a powerful force that enriches family life with innovation, joy, and meaningful connections. However, without moderation, creativity can lead to chaos or become stifled by practicality. Balancing creativity with complementary virtues ensures it remains a positive and enriching influence in family life.

- - Discipline: Helps channel creative energy into purposeful actions and ensures projects and ideas are brought to completion.
  - Orderliness: Provides structure and organization, preventing creative pursuits from becoming overwhelming or chaotic.
  - Patience: Allows creativity to unfold naturally, giving ideas time to mature and develop without rushing.
  - Moderation: Encourages a healthy balance between imaginative pursuits and practical responsibilities.
  - Perseverance: Supports the effort required to refine and realize creative ideas, even when faced with challenges.
  - Humility: Keeps creativity grounded, ensuring it serves a purpose greater than personal recognition or pride.
  - Responsibility: Ensures that creative expression aligns with family values and meets the needs of all members.
  - Flexibility: Encourages openness to new ideas while adapting creativity to suit the dynamics of family life.
  - Clarity: Helps articulate creative goals and ensures they align with the family’s shared vision.
  - Cooperation: Fosters teamwork and collaboration, ensuring that creativity is a shared and inclusive experience.

Balancing creativity with these virtues allows families to enjoy its benefits without losing sight of other important values. This harmony fosters a nurturing environment where both parents and children can thrive, using their imaginations to create joy, solve problems, and connect meaningfully while maintaining stability and purpose in their lives.

Joe is a husband, father, grandfather, author, speaker, educator, course creator, and parent/family coach.

He helps parents develop unity, find clarity, communicate, and develop consistency in their parenting with the Four C’s of Successful Families. You can find his work on social media.

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