Trust

Trust

by | Jul 4, 2021 | Virtues

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Trust is having faith, hope, and a positive outlook. Trust is believing in someone or something. We have confidence that the right thing will come without trying to control or make it happen. We trust others to do what they say they will do and give them the space to be trustworthy. Sometimes, it is difficult to trust when life brings painful experiences. Trust is being sure, in the depths of our being, that there is some gift or learning in everything that happens. We move confidently with the flow of life, gathering strength from adversity. We know we are never alone.

Quote

“Trust in the Lord and He will guide you aright. One who has this trust need fear nothing. He can be in perfect peace and happiness for he will be guided aright. ”

— Mahavagga 8:15;13 Hinduism

 The Practice of Trust

  • I maintain my hope.
  • I do not nag others or try to control them.
  • I believe there is some good in everything that happens.
  • I allow trust to heal my fears.
  • I am confident in my capacity for lifelong learning.
  • I rely on Divine assistance.
Definitions and practices of virtue are used with permission from the Virtues Project™.

In Family Life

The virtue of trust within a family manifests as a foundation of unwavering support, open communication, and a profound sense of reliability. It is demonstrated through family members’ confidence in one another, knowing they can rely on each other’s words and actions.

Trust means feeling safe to share vulnerabilities and fears, knowing they will be met with empathy and understanding. It is evident in the belief that family members have each other’s best interests at heart and will consistently honor their commitments and promises.

In a trusting family, there is mutual respect for privacy, and conflicts are resolved with empathy and fairness, strengthening the bonds of love and connection that define the family unit.

Balancing Trust

To keep the virtue of trust in balance, several other virtues come into play:

      • Wisdom: Wisdom ensures that trust is not blind but rooted in discernment. It helps us make informed decisions, recognizing when to trust and when to exercise caution.
      • Courage: Courage empowers us to trust in the face of uncertainty or past betrayals. It enables us to take calculated risks in relationships and endeavors, knowing that growth often requires stepping out of our comfort zones.
      • Humility: Humility reminds us that trust should be mutual. It encourages us to trust in our abilities and judgment while acknowledging our limitations and the wisdom of seeking help and guidance from others.
      • Forgiveness: Forgiveness is essential to maintaining trust in relationships. It allows us to repair trust when it has been damaged, recognizing that people make mistakes, and growth often involves forgiveness and reconciliation.
      • Compassion: Compassion nurtures trust by fostering empathy and understanding. It reminds us that everyone has their struggles and challenges, encouraging us to extend trust and support to others in their journey.

Trust is a powerful virtue that can lead to a fulfilling and meaningful life when balanced with wisdom, courage, humility, forgiveness, and compassion.

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Tolerance

by | Jul 4, 2021 | Virtues

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Tolerance is the virtue that empowers us to embrace differences with an open heart and an understanding mind. It encourages us to appreciate the richness of diversity, whether in culture, beliefs, or personal temperaments. Tolerance frees us from the urge to judge others harshly, allowing us instead to recognize the shared humanity we all possess—the feelings, hopes, and dreams that unite us.

 Tolerance is about patience and forgiveness, especially when others fall short of expectations or make mistakes. It doesn’t mean we accept harmful behavior, but it helps us discern when to extend grace and when to stand firm for justice. This balance is key to fostering both personal peace and harmony in relationships.

In a world filled with differing perspectives and experiences, tolerance provides a path to unity. It helps us to let go of the need for control or perfection and accept life’s imperfections with humor and grace. In doing so, tolerance enables us to move through life with resilience, embracing its joys and pains with equal measure.

By practicing tolerance, we cultivate a deep well of compassion and understanding that strengthens communities and relationships, allowing us to build a more inclusive and loving world.

Affirmations for Tolerance

1. I honor and appreciate differences in others.
This helps shift your focus from judgment to curiosity, fostering respect for diversity.

2. I release the need to control how others think or act.
Letting go of control allows space for acceptance, reducing frustration with others’ behaviors.

3. I choose to listen with an open mind and heart.
Active listening without judgment creates understanding and empathy, key components of tolerance.

4. I practice patience when faced with things I do not understand.
Patience allows you to reflect and respond thoughtfully rather than impulsively.

5. I am kind and compassionate, even in challenging situations.
Choosing kindness, especially in difficult moments, strengthens tolerance and helps maintain harmony.

6. I embrace differences as opportunities to learn and grow.
Viewing diversity as a learning opportunity broadens your perspective and deepens your acceptance.

7. I forgive others for their mistakes and offer them grace.
Forgiveness keeps you from holding on to resentment, allowing you to move forward peacefully.

8. I focus on what unites us rather than what divides us.
This affirmation builds bridges of connection, encouraging unity despite differences.

9. I accept that not everything will go the way I want it to.
Acceptance of life’s unpredictability fosters tolerance for situations beyond your control.

10. I give myself and others the space to be imperfect.
Recognizing that perfection is not the goal allows you to be more tolerant of both your own and others shortcomings.

Quotes

“Think for yourself and let others enjoy the privilege of doing so too.” — Voltaire, “Essay on Tolerance” (1763)

“Anger and intolerance are the enemies of correct understanding.” — Mahatma Gandhi

“In the practice of tolerance, one’s enemy is the best teacher.” — Dalai Lama

Tolerance In Family Life

Tolerance within a family is a beacon of understanding and harmony. It manifests as a genuine respect for each member’s unique perspectives, beliefs, and choices, even when they differ from one’s own. Tolerance fosters an environment where disagreements are approached with patience and a willingness to find common ground, demonstrated through open and empathetic communication. It means recognizing that diversity of thought can enrich the family’s collective wisdom and nurture individual growth.

In practicing tolerance, family members embrace each other’s quirks and idiosyncrasies, creating a nurturing and accepting home where love and acceptance reign supreme.

Balancing Virtues

To maintain a balanced tolerance, several virtues come to the rescue:

      • Courage: Courage is the antidote to excessive tolerance. It empowers individuals to stand up for justice, confront wrongdoing, and assert their values when needed. It ensures that tolerance does not translate into passivity in the face of injustice.
      • Discernment: Discernment helps individuals differentiate between situations where tolerance is appropriate and instances where intervention is necessary. It ensures that tolerance is not indiscriminate but directed towards the right causes.
      • Empathy: Empathy enables individuals to put themselves in others’ shoes, fostering a deeper understanding of different perspectives and experiences. It encourages tolerance by helping individuals relate to the feelings and struggles of others.
      • Patience: Patience complements tolerance by allowing individuals to gradually acclimate to diverse viewpoints and cultures. It ensures that the acceptance process is not rushed, allowing understanding and harmonious coexistence to flourish.

Striking this balance enables us to celebrate our shared humanity while honoring the beautiful diversity that enriches our lives.

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Thoughtfulness

by | Jul 4, 2021 | Virtues

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Thoughtfulness is kindness guided by empathy. It is carefully considering a course of action with discernment and honesty. It is giving importance to other people’s needs. We think about them, observe what they need and offer our help. We pay careful attention to their likes and dislikes and do things that give them happiness. We carefully consider how our actions will affect them. Thoughtfulness helps us to move beyond self-centeredness to become true companions. Little gifts of thoughtfulness can brighten someone’s day. Lifelong thoughtfulness illumines our relationships with abiding joy and trust.

Quote

“Let them at all times concern themselves with doing a kindly thing for one of their fellows, offering to someone love, consideration, thoughtful help.”

— ‘Abdul’l-Baha

 The Practice of Thoughtfulness

  • I care about other people’s needs and feelings.
  • I am discerning in my decisions. I am observant and considerate.
  • I give tender attention.
  • I do little things that brings others happiness.
  • I am a caring companion.
Definitions and practices of virtue are used with permission from the Virtues Project™.

In Family Life

In a family, thoughtfulness is exemplified through considerate and empathetic actions and communication. It means actively taking into account each family member’s feelings, needs, and perspectives. It’s demonstrated by showing genuine interest in one another’s well-being, listening, understanding, and endeavoring to accommodate and support each other’s goals and aspirations. Thoughtfulness also involves:

  • Recognizing and respecting boundaries.
  • Resolving conflicts with patience and empathy.
  • Consistently expressing love and appreciation.

In a thoughtful family, every member feels valued, heard, and understood, fostering a harmonious and nurturing environment where mutual care and compassion flourish.

Balancing Thoughtfulness

Thoughtfulness is a radiant act that brightens the lives of those we touch and, when in balance, helps create better relationships.

      • Wisdom: Wisdom acts as a guiding light to thoughtfulness. It helps us discern when and how to be thoughtful, ensuring our consideration for others is applied with prudence and foresight.
      • Courage: Courage bolsters thoughtfulness by encouraging us to honestly express our concerns and boundaries. It prevents overdeveloped thoughtfulness from turning into self-sacrifice and enables us to stand up for our needs when necessary.
      • Empathy: Empathy is the essence of thoughtfulness It deepens our connection with others, ensuring our kindness and consideration are genuine and heartfelt.
      • Balance: The virtue of balance itself is crucial in maintaining thoughtfulness. It reminds us that a harmonious life involves considering both our needs and the needs of others, preventing us from straying into extremes.

Thoughtfulness shines as a symbol of empathy and kindness. Finding the equilibrium between thoughtfulness and its balancing virtues of wisdom, courage, empathy, and balance allows us to have more meaningful connections with those around us.

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Thankfulness

by | Jul 4, 2021 | Virtues

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Thankfulness is gratitude for all the bounties of life. Expressing thanks connects us to others and brings them joy. Each day, we find a moment to count our blessings. Reflecting on the treasures in our lives lifts our spirits. Thankfulness soothes our sadness and restores our hope. It give us perspective. As we practice thankfulness, we attract more and more blessings, because thanksgiving is conducive to bounty. Thankfulness is a path to contentment.

Quote

“What is to come is better for you than what has gone before. For your Lord will certainly give and you will be content…Keep recounting the favours of your Lord.”

— Al-Qu’ran 93

 The Practice of Thankfulness

  • I have an attitude of gratitude.
  • I count my blessings every day.
  • I discern the gifts in my tests.
  • I am open to the joys of life.
  • I celebrate my life.
  • I expect the best.
Definitions and practices of virtue are used with permission from the Virtues Project™.

In Family Life

The virtue of Thankfulness in a family is characterized by a genuine and consistent appreciation for one another and the blessings they share. It’s demonstrated through open expressions of gratitude and recognition for even the smallest acts of kindness or contributions made by family members.

In a thankful family, individuals actively acknowledge and value each other’s efforts, whether it’s a simple chore completed, a thoughtful gesture, or emotional support provided during challenging times. This virtue fosters an atmosphere of positivity and connection, reinforcing bonds by highlighting the good in each other and the shared experiences that enrich their lives.

Balancing Thankfulness

Identify the virtues that help maintain a balanced expression of thankfulness.

      • Self-Reliance: Cultivating self-reliance can help balance overdeveloped thankfulness. It encourages individuals to find inner strength and happiness, reducing their dependence on external sources.
      • Authenticity: Practicing authenticity fosters genuine connections with others, allowing thankfulness to be expressed sincerely rather than as a mere social nicety.
      • Assertiveness: Developing assertiveness can help individuals communicate their needs and boundaries without excessive apologizing, maintaining a healthier relationship balance.
      • Humility: Cultivating humility helps individuals acknowledge that they are not entitled to everything in life, encouraging a more balanced perspective.
      • Optimism: Practicing optimism allows individuals to focus on the positive aspects of life, promoting a more grateful attitude.
      • Generosity: Developing generosity fosters a sense of giving and sharing, reminding individuals of the joy in both receiving and giving thanks.

By integrating balancing virtues, we can ensure that our expressions of thankfulness remain heartfelt and bring joy to ourselves and others.

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Tact

by | Jul 4, 2021 | Virtues

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Tact is telling the truth kindly. We think before we speak, aware of how deeply our words affect others. When our words are weighty, we weigh our words, knowing they have the power to cause pain or to uplift. A harsh word to an intimate is like a grain of sand in their eye. An encouraging word can fill them with confidence. Tact is essential when we feel strong emotions like anger. It helps us discern what to say and what is better left unsaid. Tact is good timing. It is the diplomacy of the heart.

Quote

“Use a sweet tongue, courtesy, and gentleness, and thou mayest manage to guide an elephant by a hair.”

— Sa’di

 The Practice of Tact

  • I tell the truth kindly and gently.
  • I reflect on how my words influence others.
  • I think before I speak.
  • I do not allow anger to control me.
  • I discern when to speak and when to be silent.
  • I use courteous language.
Definitions and practices of virtue are used with permission from the Virtues Project™.

In Family Life

The virtue of tact, when applied between parents and children, plays a vital role in nurturing a healthy and loving relationship. Parents practice tact by actively listening to their children’s thoughts and feelings without judgment, creating a safe space for open communication.

They choose their words carefully, ensuring that their guidance and discipline are delivered with compassion and understanding rather than harshness. Tactful parents recognize the importance of balancing authority with empathy, acknowledging their children’s perspectives, and validating their emotions. They also exercise patience, refraining from overreacting to challenging situations and taking the time to address issues calmly and rationally.

Likewise, children practice tact by respecting their parents’ opinions and decisions, even when disagreeing. They learn to express themselves honestly but respectfully, recognizing that open communication strengthens the parent-child bond. Through mutual tact and understanding, parents and children foster a nurturing environment where love, trust, and mutual growth thrive.

Balancing Tact

The absence of tact can create an environment where communication is abrasive and unproductive. Balanced with these virtues, it promotes harmony and meaningful connections.

      • Empathy: Empathy complements tact by helping individuals better understand and connect with the emotions of others. By empathizing with someone’s feelings, we can tailor our tactful communication to provide comfort, support, or encouragement.
      • Honesty: Honesty serves as a crucial counterbalance to overdeveloped tact. It encourages us to speak truthfully and transparently when necessary, even if it involves difficult conversations. Honesty ensures that our tactful communication remains genuine and authentic.
      • Patience: Patience goes hand in hand with tact, particularly when emotions run high. It reminds us to take the time needed to choose our words wisely, especially when we are upset or frustrated, preventing impulsive or hurtful remarks.

Tact, the art of telling the truth kindly, is a virtue that, when cultivated in moderation, allows us to navigate conversations with care and consideration.