Thoughtfulness is kindness guided by empathy. It is carefully considering a course of action with discernment and honesty. It is giving importance to other people’s needs. We think about them, observe what they need and offer our help. We pay careful attention to their likes and dislikes and do things that give them happiness. We carefully consider how our actions will affect them. Thoughtfulness helps us to move beyond self-centeredness to become true companions. Little gifts of thoughtfulness can brighten someone’s day. Lifelong thoughtfulness illumines our relationships with abiding joy and trust.

In Family Life

In a family, thoughtfulness is exemplified through considerate and empathetic actions and communication. It means actively taking into account each family member’s feelings, needs, and perspectives. It’s demonstrated by showing genuine interest in one another’s well-being, listening, understanding, and endeavoring to accommodate and support each other’s goals and aspirations. Thoughtfulness also involves:

  • Recognizing and respecting boundaries.
  • Resolving conflicts with patience and empathy.
  • Consistently expressing love and appreciation.

In a thoughtful family, every member feels valued, heard, and understood, fostering a harmonious and nurturing environment where mutual care and compassion flourish.


Let them at all times concern themselves with doing a kindly thing for one of their fellows, offering to someone love, consideration, thoughtful help.

— ‘Abdul’l-Baha

 The Practice of Thoughtfulness

  • I care about other people’s needs and feelings.
  • I am discerning in my decisions. I am observant and considerate.
  • I give tender attention.
  • I do little things that brings others happiness.
  • I am a caring companion.