Modesty is a sense of quiet confidence and self-respect, which allows us to enjoy our accomplishments without inflating our self-importance. We have no need to brag or attract attention. We know we are worthy just as we are. We have a sense of respectful privacy about our bodies. We have reasonable expectations of ourselves. We resist the drive to overdo. Modesty allows us to accept praise with gratitude. We have no need to raise ourselves above others. We share the glory. We are grateful for the gifts we have, and we honor the gifts that others have too.

In Family Life

The virtue of modesty is demonstrated through a humble and respectful approach to personal and familial matters. It involves refraining from excessive self-promotion or boasting and instead fostering an environment where each family member values the contributions and feelings of others equally. Modesty within a family manifests in active listening, empathetic communication, and a willingness to share responsibilities without seeking undue recognition.

It also includes maintaining a sense of privacy and discretion, respecting each member’s boundaries, and avoiding excessive materialism or extravagance, ensuring that the family’s focus remains on shared values, mutual support, and the well-being of its members. Ultimately, modesty in a family nurtures humility, strengthens bonds, and promotes a sense of unity and harmony among its members.


You have a good many little gifts and virtues, but there is no need of parading them, for conceit spoils the finest genius. There is not much danger that real talent or goodness will be overlooked long, and the great charm of all power is modesty.

— Louisa May Alcott

 The Practice of Modesty

  • I am comfortable being who I am.
  • I have no need to exaggerate my importance.
  • I treat my body with respect.
  • I refuse to overdo.
  • I share credit for success.
  • I am simply grateful for my accomplishments.

Balancing Modesty

These balancing virtues of modesty allow us to appreciate our worth while acknowledging the worth of those we encounter.

      • Humility: Humility complements Modesty by helping us acknowledge our achievements without diminishing our self-worth. It encourages a balanced perspective, allowing us to accept praise with gratitude while maintaining a sense of humility in our interactions.
      • Respect: Respect for ourselves and others reinforces Modesty’s core principle of self-respect and acknowledging the worth of those around us. It ensures that we honor the privacy and boundaries of others while upholding our own.
      • Gratitude: Gratitude aligns with Modesty by fostering an appreciation for our gifts and accomplishments without becoming boastful. It reminds us to be thankful for what we have and to recognize the contributions of others in our journey.
      • Empathy: Empathy helps us understand and appreciate the experiences and feelings of others, preventing us from overshadowing them with our achievements. It encourages us to share the glory and celebrate the successes of those around us.

In pursuing a virtuous life, Modesty is a beacon of balance between self-assuredness and humility.