Empathy is the ability to put ourselves in another’s place and to understand their experience. We are deeply attentive to their thoughts and feelings with such compassionate accuracy that they can hear their thoughts more clearly. Empathy connects us with our common humanity. It protects us from prejudice, blame, and judgment – those things that divide us from each other. With empathy, we reflect on how our actions affect others. It moves us to seek justice for every person, even those with whom we disagree. Empathy inspires us to be giving and selfless. Empathy connects our hearts.


To ‘listen’ another’s soul into a condition of disclosure and discovery may be almost the greatest service any human being ever performs for another.

— Douglas V Steere

 The Practice of Empathy

  • I seek to understand others’ experience.
  • I listen with compassion.
  • I refrain from judging and blaming.
  • I think about how my choices impact others.
  • I care about people’s rights.
  • I feel my connection to all people.
Definitions and practices of virtue are used with permission from the Virtues Project™.

In Family Life

The virtue of Empathy within a family is demonstrated through a deep and genuine understanding of each member’s feelings, perspectives, and needs. It involves actively listening and offering support without judgment, allowing family members to share their joys, worries, and challenges openly. Empathy means putting oneself in another’s shoes, feeling their emotions, and offering a comforting presence during distress.

Empathy fosters trust and connection in a family setting, where conflicts are resolved with sensitivity and disagreements are met with a willingness to understand one another. This virtue encourages family members to celebrate each other’s successes. It provides a strong shoulder to lean on in times of difficulty, ultimately creating a strong bond that nurtures a sense of belonging and togetherness.

Balancing Empathy

Empathy is the cornerstone of human connection and understanding, the bridge that unites us. To keep empathy in balance, we need:

      • Courage: Developing the courage to say “no” when necessary and set healthy boundaries is crucial. It takes bravery to balance empathy with self-care and to prioritize one’s own needs without feeling guilty.
      • Wisdom: Wisdom helps in discerning when empathy might be misguided. It encourages individuals to consider the bigger picture and the long-term consequences of their actions, preventing them from making hasty decisions solely driven by emotions.
      • Compassion: Compassion is the natural ally of empathy. Cultivating compassion involves actively seeking to understand the suffering and emotions of others. It encourages us to extend a helping hand, even when it is inconvenient for us, fostering a sense of interconnectedness.
      • Humility: Humility helps us recognize that we don’t have all the answers and that our perspective is limited. It allows us to admit when we are wrong and be open to learning from others’ experiences. In this way, humility complements empathy by preventing arrogance or self-righteousness.

Embrace empathy with grace, and let it serve as a guiding light on your journey toward a more compassionate and interconnected world.