Discernment is accessing the wisdom of our intuition to discover what is essential and true. Detaching from our desire to rush decisions, we seek to distinguish the true from the false, the facts from our assumptions, and then choose the best path. Reflecting in silence creates space for our deepest perceptions. With contemplative vigilance, we open ourselves to clarity. We listen deeply for the true questions, trusting that the answer will unfold and reveal itself when the time is right. We become alert to the messages that come in subtle and surprising ways. We hold decisions lightly until the truth emerges. Discernment empowers us to be guided by Grace.

In Family Life

The virtue of discernment in a family is exemplified through thoughtful and perceptive decision-making that prioritizes the well-being and harmony of the household. It is demonstrated through open and empathetic communication, where family members actively listen to one another’s perspectives and consider various viewpoints before making important choices. Discernment also involves:

  • Differentiating between right and wrong.
  • Teaching children moral values and ethical principles.
  • Guiding them in making responsible decisions.

In a discerning family, conflicts are resolved through constructive dialogue rather than impulsive reactions, fostering an environment of mutual respect, trust, and understanding among its members. Ultimately, discernment in a family leads to a cohesive unit that navigates life’s challenges with wisdom and unity.


Reflection and action must never be undertaken independently.

— Paulo Friere

 The Practice of Discernment

  • I trust my inner vision.
  • I seek full information.
  • I release the pressure to decide by determination alone.
  • I take time for reflection and prayer.
  • I hone my intuition.
  • I am alert to the signs placed in my path.
  • I am open to revelation.