Detachment is experiencing our feelings without allowing them to control us. We step back and look at things objectively. We let go and accept what we cannot change. We detach from others’ choices, knowing that their spiritual work is not ours to do. We choose how we will act rather than just reacting. We step away from harmful cravings. Detachment is a deep breath of peace and patience in response to unexpected anger. We can listen without losing ourselves. With detachment, we see our mistakes honestly, make amends and start afresh. Detachment allows us to be in the world but not of it. It frees us to lead our lives with grace.

In Family Life

The virtue of detachment within a family manifests as an admirable balance between love and letting go. It is demonstrated by allowing each family member the freedom to grow, make their own choices, and learn from their experiences while offering unwavering support and guidance when needed.

In practicing detachment, family members foster an environment where individuals can flourish without overprotection or excessive control. It involves respecting their autonomy, accepting their unique paths, and embracing change as a natural part of life’s journey. In a family context, detachment means loving one another unconditionally while respecting and nurturing each other’s individuality, fostering an atmosphere of trust, and allowing everyone to be their authentic selves.


You always have the choice to take all things evenly, to hold on to nothing, to receive each irritation as if you had only fifteen minutes to live.

— Tolbert McCarroll

 The Practice of Detachment

  • I recognize my feelings without letting them control me.
  • I resist interfering with others’ spiritual lessons.
  • I choose to act instead of react.
  • I free myself from impulses and cravings.
  • I listen in order to understand.
  • I have the humility to amend my mistakes.
  • I lead my life as my soul chooses.