Accountability is the willingness to stand in responsibility for every choice. It is acting with integrity, doing what we say we will do. When we make a mistake, we do not seek to hide it or avoid it. We have the courage to face it willingly. We are open to the lessons it can bring and ready to make amends. With accountability, people rely on us, because we are answerable for our actions. We appreciate both the good we have done and the good to be gleaned from the choices that do not turn outright. We are guided by our highest standards.

In Family Life

The virtue of accountability within a family manifests as a commitment to taking responsibility for one’s actions and their impact on the family unit. It involves openly acknowledging mistakes, showing remorse, and actively seeking ways to rectify any harm caused. This virtue is demonstrated through transparent communication, where family members openly discuss their actions and decisions, fostering an environment of trust and understanding.

When accountability is upheld, family members hold themselves and each other to a higher standard, valuing integrity and growth. In practical terms, accountability might involve admitting when a promise is broken, promptly addressing conflicts, and collaboratively finding solutions to challenges, thus promoting a harmonious and resilient family dynamic built on mutual respect and responsibility.


Always take 100% responsibility for any activity you’re involved in

— Gay Hendricks & Kate Ludeman, The Corporate Mystic

 The Practice of Accountability

  • I take responsibility for my choices.
  • I have the humility to face my mistakes.
  • I am a lifelong learner.
  • I make amends.
  • I weigh both positive and negative outcomes.
  • I live up to my sense of justice.

Balancing Accountability

Accountability is a noble and essential trait that fosters trust, integrity, and personal growth. If not in balance though it can lead to perfectionism or avoiding taking responsibility. Keeping this virtue in balance can be accomplished by developing these other virtues.

    • Compassion: Cultivating self-compassion can counterbalance excessive self-criticism. It allows individuals to acknowledge mistakes without harsh self-judgment, promoting personal growth and resilience.
    • Humility: Humility helps individuals accept their limitations and seek help or feedback when needed. It prevents the perfectionism that can arise from an overemphasis on accountability.
    • Empathy: Practicing empathy enables individuals to understand and take into account the perspectives and feelings of others. This virtue can counteract defensiveness and promote open communication.
    • Resilience: Building resilience allows individuals to bounce back from setbacks, learn from their mistakes, and continue to pursue their goals with determination.

Striving for this balance fosters a healthy and accountable life where mistakes are opportunities for growth and commitments are honored with integrity.