Joseph Michael

Four C's of Successful Families

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Welcome and thank you for your commitment to the Four C’s of Successful Families – Clarity, Communication, Consistency, & Community. Click on the link above to receive your copy of “Help Your Child Become More Resilient”. Take a look at the article below.

You have clarified that resiliency is important to you and your family. These tips are all about Communication and Consistency. As your child is growing, model and point out others in your Community that have demonstrated this virtue as an example to your children.

I know from my life experience of having four children and three granddaughters it is very hard as a parent to watch your children struggle. You know how it is difficult for us to struggle also. However, our struggle, meeting challenges, sometimes failing, and then recovering, is how you and I have strengthened our ability to bounce back. You have built those muscles of resiliency over your lifetime.

As a parent if you do not allow some struggle, your children will always be looking for someone to rescue them from difficult situations. Every little thing that doesn’t go their way will become an insurmountable issue, that will have mental, emotional and physical negative long-term effects. Here are six ways failure can be your friend. Use these talking points along with the tips found in “Help Your Child Become More Resilient” to strengthen the muscles of resiliency in your children.

6 Ways Failure Can Be Your Friend

Failure, it has such a dark connotation, but failure, unfortunately, is a natural part of life. It helps us to learn our limitations so that we can push them and grow. Most people are disappointed by their failures; they see them as a sign of their weakness. Believe it or not, failures play a large part in your ultimate success.

They can benefit you in many ways and how you handle them is a sign of strength. It can be challenging to see your failure in a positive light. For all the times that you feel you need encouragement when facing failure, we’ve listed six ways in which your failure can benefit you when you handle it well.

1) Improves Your Awareness and Focus
When you fail, your brain wants to compensate for the error made and does so by paying extremely close attention to the task at hand and making sure its acutely aware of any potential error that could be made to catch it early. When you fail and try again, you’re improving your awareness and focus.

2) Provides You with Important and Necessary Life Experience
As much as it hurts us and our pride to fail, it provides you with experience necessary to grow and develop in life. This experience can not only improve your career, but it can also lead to making better decisions when you fail, you learn what doesn’t work so you can avoid failure in the future.

3) Provides You with Knowledge Necessary for Success
Failure in any part of your life has the ability to provide us with knowledge. This knowledge allows you to avoid making the same mistakes that led to failure in the first place later down the road when you try again. The knowledge and experience you gain from failure will work together in you to encourage growth and strength.

4) Strengthens Your Resilience
It’s no surprise that the pain, sorrow, and disappointment that come coupled with failure toughen your skin. You’ve heard the age-old saying that what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, and that is certainly true in the case of failure. The more experience you have with failure, the less it will hurt when it happens and the easier it will be to keep in mind that failure can lead to good things.

5) Helps Instill the Need for Improvement
In everything that you do in life, there will always be room for improvement. Nothing will reinforce this thought more than failing. Sometimes failure is unavoidable, but it always provides you with the experience and knowledge necessary for improvement. It can be difficult to admit that there’s a need for improvement in any area of your life and failure can help facilitate that by forcing you to confront it.

6) Allows and Encourages Necessary Growth
Growth is necessary for success in every area of your life: professional, personal, and emotional. Failure encourages you to change a habit, improve a skill, or in some other way grow as a person. Growth often takes place at times of high stakes like those of failure or mistakes.

Failures are a disappointing, devastating, and necessary part of life. The path to success is paved with failure; sometimes you fail several times before reaching your preferred outcome, others it takes just one, but every success is constructed of the failures we’ve faced and the experience and knowledge we’ve gained from said failures.

Many see failure as the enemy, but it can actually be your friend, leading you to the necessary experience and know how to succeed.